So, let's talk a bit about each of these guys.  Guy number one.  You don't get to see each other often, and he's broken up with you once before because of this.  Trust is an important thing in a relationship... if you can't trust him, then I don't think this is the right person for you.  Either you should wait until you can trust him, or just avoid persuing a relationship with him.  And the other thing is... do you really want to go through another relationship where you can't see someone as often?  That all depends on ~your~ comfort level and how you feel.  But you need to decide if that kind of relationship is the one you want as well... I mean, keep this in mind.  If you went with guy #1, then you wouldn't see him often, but would continue to see both other boys.  I'm not saying that you would cheat, but I'm saying that it may cause you more confusion... don't you agree?

Friendship is an important thing, and I can understand why you're worried.  The choice is yours in this matter.  Do you think you could work it out in a relationship, or do you feel that your relationship was meant to stay platonic?  Do you see him as a more than a friend? Or do you value his friendship more than something you could get from a relationship.  So think about that some more, maybe even talk to him about it if you think it might help you out.  Just explain your concerns to him when you're a bit more decided on your feelings :).

And as for this last boy.  Him talking to you is his decision.  Don't feel guilty for choosing someone else.  This is your life, and you need to do what makes you happy.  Of course, he may be a bit disappointed, but he also needs to accept that you may be better off with someone else.  So don't think of guilt in terms of this.  Just think about whether or not you like him.  It sounds like he's a pretty good friend at the moment, do you see the potential to take that farther?  Do you think that you could go with this boy and not regret not choosing someone else?

Ultimately, what you want to do is choose the person that you can be with and be happy with.  You don't want to choose the person that will make you think... "but what if I would have been more happy with someone else.".  If you aren't ready to choose, then no need to rush.  Maybe discuss with some friends of yours what they think, and if they think that you seem happier with one more than the other two.  Don't let them decide for you, of course, but their opinions may help clear some things up as well :).  And from there, just take your time, and make the decision that's best for you.  Think it through, and try to clear up your feelings and understand what you truly want :).

Wish I coudl have helped you out more, but it's really hard to say which of these guys is best for ~you~.  That's your decision :).  Who knows... maybe none of them are the type of person that you want to be with right now, and that's fine too :).  Best of luck!

Posted at 2:38 pm on May 3, 2008

1) You say you don't really trust him anymore, and you don't want him to split with you for the same reasons he did before - surely the lack of trust between you guys is telling you you shouldn't be together?

2) If you're not sure if you see this guy as boyfriend material, my advice would be to leave well alone. If you change your mind, you could always date this guy, but whilst you're not sure, it seems unfair to get his hopes up, and potentially ruin a great friendship.

3) This guy seems nice and genuine, and the fact that he's a year below you shouldn't be an issue, but the fact that you pointed it out tells me that you might see it as one.

My advice would be not to date any of them until you're really sure about who you want to be it. Having a boyfriend isn't a necessity and maybe you should take a break from the dating scene for a while until you're sure about what you want.

Good luck!

Posted at 1:24 pm on May 3, 2008