Yeah, I know it can be really tough when you see someone you love every day and you just want them back. I think it's brave of you to even be able to consider the other people's feelings in this matter. There is a kid here and you have to think of it before anything else because it's innocent - it didn't ask to be born and it deserves every chance it can get.

You never know, this might not work out for your bf and the other girl and in a month or two you might find him single again and you might still be in a position to take things up with him. But if you jump in now and try to take him away then you are going to cause hard feelings that may mean you lose any chance with him ever. I assume that he has broken up with this girl before because he was seeing you anyway, so who's to say it won't happen again?

I know it's incredibly hard when you see him every day but try to do things that will distract you. Tyr to find other interests to take your mind of him and remind yourself that you're doing this for the right reasons. And don't forget that this thing may not last and that if he does become available again you will be in a position where you haven't interfered and caused ill feelings and you can see about giving things another go.

Sometimes it's just best to let go and see what happens.

Be brave, hang in there.

Good luck.

Posted at 4:06 pm on May 3, 2008

If that's the case then no, I think you should let him go and try to see that his kid needs him there. Especially if this is a teenage pregnancy we're talking about then I think the mother probably needs all the support she can get and you should give them every chance to work things out that you can without interfering. That kid needs every chance it can get in life and if there's any chance that it can have its dad around then it wouldn't be fair to interfere in my opinion just because you love him. I know that's hard but you have to think of the bigger picture.

If you don't mean any of that then I'm sorry for ranting on. Without a kid involved then I can't really say without knowing more. Ultimately who he is with is his decision and not yours. I know you want him back with you but you can't make him want you and in the end running after him and trying to get him back by whatever means might just make you look desperate and he might resent you for it. If you let him be and see how things play out then you might find things don't work out for him anyway and then you can see about making a move on him.

Posted at 3:52 pm on May 3, 2008