That was a very stupid thing for you to do. Hopefully you have learned you lesson and will not do it again in the future.

Since you are talking to her now, maybe you could try to explain what happened and explain how sorry you are. That you didn't mean for anyone to get hurt and it to get to this stage.

How her parent reacted was normal. You said you were a 21 year old man talking to a 12 year old girl. I think it will be hard to explain to her parent what happened because they might find it hard to believe you. But, you should try to explain and see what happens.

Once you have sorted out everything, I think you should break off all contact with this girl. Try to forget what happened and move on. You didn't mean for it to happen and I don't think you wanted it to blow out of portion as it has.

Please make sure you don't do this in the future. You know what it does and what it causes now.

I wish you the best of luck.


Posted at 12:14 pm on May 4, 2008

That was a very unwise thing to do, but i guess you did not mean for this to happen. It just shows that things can spiral out of control.

She is trying to speak to you, right? Perhaps you should explain to her what you did, thats if she will believe you. I think the best thing would be to just make up an excuse of why you cant speak to her anymore, otherwise she will attempt to carry on talking to you unless you tell her otherwise. I suppose you two could carry on talking as long as you two are more discreet, but i really would not recommend that.

I suppose you could try and explain the situation. I can more than understand why her parents were so upset and angry because if that was your daughter would you be scared for the welfare of your daughter? For all they knew you could have in fact been 21 like you originally said. If you can explain to the parents what you did and why you did it.

The best thing would be do just move on and forget about her. I know it will be hard, because as you said she was a great person, but you don't want to get reported to the police. Her parents are probably really unsure of you and rightly so, even if you explained to them they would still probably not believe you. They are going to monitor her more stringently. I think you should  just move on. Now you know not to make a mistake like that again.

Good luck!

Posted at 12:04 pm on May 4, 2008