I'm 17, she's half a year older.

I was friends with this girl for a short while, roughly five months. I was there for her when she broke up with her boyfriend of a year in a half (whom she stopped loving, apparently.) We hung out more and more, and I may have led her on. We held hands and put our arms around each other's waists, and I honestly thought it was harmless. I knew it was coming though, when one day she told me she didn't want to beat around the bush anymore, and she liked me and wanted to know where this is going.

I told her we'd best stay friends. I won't get into the reasons, but in short there was no spark. I felt nothing for her.

We stayed friends. She made it clear she was not giving up, but was not inappropriately persistent, and we had a good time hanging out. Then she got back together with her old boyfriend. I couldn't believe it - still, she once again made it clear she'd rather be with me, and was only getting back together with him because she could not stand being alone. I should note that he's a nice guy, and he's crazy about her. I despise him for reasons that have nothing to do with her though.

He was heartbroken, and begged her to take him back.I guess he's happy now...

Anyway, this is where things get interesting. She was supposed to come to a classical concert which I was performing, which meant a lot to me (the concert and seeing her there as a friend). She did not show up, and did not return my consequent calls. Several days later, she texted me like nothing happened apologizing lightly for not being able to make it. I politely made it clear that I wanted to hear some sort of reason for it. She became upset, and cut off all the ties.

I keep in touch with her friend, who made it clear to me that she's doing it out of spite, because she still has feelings for me. I thought it was understandable, though a nasty thing to do. I texted her about two weeks later (she hasn't returned my initial twenty-something calls after the concert) apologizing for leading her on, saying I realize how much that must suck. She accepted the apology and said she would talk to me when she felt ready.

Let me make a few things clear. I know for a fact she'd still be with me and is not happy with her boyfriend. It has been a month since the concert, and we haven't spoken. She just posted a xanga (blog) entry about how she wishes we had a chance and how she had a dream about me.

So here's the thing... I've come to realize that while I do not have immediate feeling for her, I very much value her friendship, and can not predict where time may have taken our relationship. I want to give it a shot, just hang out more and see where things would go, but you can see how that's a problem. Breaking her BF's heart is a part of it (I am sure she would be willing to give it a shot), but I can't stand the fact that she would just sit there and look at the phone ringing with my name on it, and not pick up. I understand why she lost contact, but she knew well enough she could have just asked to take some time off, and I made it clear her friendship meant a lot to me. Should I get over my pride, call again (she'll likely pick up), and ask her to go see a movie, making it clear we're going as friends, to get to know each other better and see where things might go?r should I leave thing behind me?p> Comment please. .

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