If you have to ask yourself 'Should i tell him?' then its probably a good idea to tell him. You obviously like him, therefore you should tell him your feelings about him. For all you know the guy might actually like you back as well. What to do? Possibly write him a note with your feelings inside, and hand it to him. Let him read it, and respond to you. In return, he will let you know his feelings, whether he likes you or not, he probably would respect knowing that you like him to. No, we all have dreams about an individual in all life. If you have nonsexual or even sexual dreams about him, this doesn't mean that you are obsessive. Now, if you were obsessive you would have posters in your room about him. That would be obsessive. But to answer your question, its not obsessive.

Good Luck, hope everything goes well.
`Phoenix`

Posted at 9:20 am on Sep. 30, 2007

You are going to have to make some sort of move, or talk to him, to find out.  I don't think you have many other ways to establish how he feels about you.

You can check out his eye contact, body language, how he smiles at you, if you touches your arm or hand but makes it look natural or an accident - but ultimately, you might have to come out and ask him.

Now I know that you're probably scared of rejection, or that it would ruin your friendship, and I totally understand that.  But, by sitting back and doing nothing, you're leaving it open for someone else to come and take him off you, which I am sure is something you don't want to happen.

So, be brave and make a move - the worst that can happen is he doesn't feel that way, but it's not the end of the world, at least you tried, and you never know, he might really like you - it's worth taking the risk

Posted at 8:00 am on Sep. 30, 2007

Heh, well, I'll be the first to tell you that the dreams aren't obsessive. You can hardly control what you dream about, can you? In any case, I wouldn't tell him about them just yet.

A year and a month is a pretty long time to like someone without them knowing. The fact that you're friends make is so much the better. It all depends on age and maturity when it comes to deciphering whether a guy likes you or not. Keep an eye out for the following signs: (taken from www.myjellybean.com)

DOES HE LIKE YOU?

How can you tell if your crush likes you back? Myjellybean.com has some clues that say he might be into you..
Yak Attack

He might start talking loudly in your presence or start treating you as one of the guys. (Yes, this is a weird way to show he likes you, but it's one of the most common and strongest signals!).
Mumbly Joe

He might also become very shy and mumble when he speaks to you..
Flirt City

Then again, he could behave like a real Casanova, praising you for no apparent reason and straining hard to hold a sustained intelligent conversation, because he's so busy staring at your - ahem - assets. You could also notice that he's acting way more flirtatious toward you than toward other girls who are around..
His Friends Are Friendly to You

If his friends are paying attention to you when he isn't around (often a clue that this guy talked to his or her friends about you)..
There He is Again!

If he always seems to be around (especially if you get the "instinct" that he's there because of you).
Perma-Grin

If he is smiling tons while listening to you, and seems to be listening especially "actively"..
Staring Contest

If he seems to look into your eyes a little longer than normally..
He's Keeping Tabs

If he remembers stuff you said before and brings it up again (asking questions about something you mentioned in the past ) - shows he's interested in you .
TESTING YOUR SUSPICIONS:

If you think a guy likes you (trust your gut instinct, girls) but you can't be totally sure, try this: Give him your best smile. If he smiles back, or his face suddenly lights up, tah dah! He likes you. If he starts sweating and looks all flustered, he likes you even more. If his smile is the polite kind, or if he frowns or looks away, that's a bad sign that maybe he isn't interested in you after all.

There are many many more of course, but those are good ones to look out for. Anyway, go with your gut feel. Sometimes a guy may not display any outward signs of liking a girl, but if you get the feeling that he does, take the plunge and see for yourself. It's really the only way you're going to get a definite answer.

- Scui

Posted at 12:21 am on Sep. 30, 2007

If you have feelings for this young man, and y'all are friends, I'd say you're definitely in a good spot to ask him if he is interested.  Why not take him out to dinner, and ask him his feelings for you?  If he plays dumb, or silly, tell him you have deeper feelings for him than just friendship, and see his reaction.  He may not be ready to be in a relationship, or he may not want to risk the friendship - but it's certainly okay for you to ask him.  The absolute worst thing he can say is No, so you don't have much to lose, ya know?  Go for it is what I say.  You'll regret it forever if you don't. :-)

As far as your dreams?  They are uncontrollable.  Of course it doesn't make you obsessive.  You can't control them.  Don't worry about little things like that, dear.

In closing, I'd also like to mention that my private message box is always open if you should need anything else, and I would love to hear from you.  It's also perfectly acceptable to write in another eHelp if you deem it to be necessary.

Best of luck,
- The Professional

Posted at 12:15 am on Sep. 30, 2007