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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 1:18 am on Dec. 23, 2007 Return to Inbox
Subject: i hate being single
i want a boyfriend preferably an emo one cause they r hot and sort of dress like and look like the lead singer of the band AFI style wise of course only problem is I don't know where to look for that specific kind of guy and I don't know who else to ask for help in finding one. and I don't want to b single nemore but i'm sick and tired of hearing the same old advice that I need to b more out there and open up more talk more in order to get a guy. all guys seem to want these days r skanks with no brains and no lives. so neway I think i'm doomed or cursed to b single and I don't like that its been going on 7 years now that I have been single. it seems guys like my sisters cause of course they r good looking and social. the guys flock to them and not to me. I can think of so many scenerios in which guys would save my sisters but leave me behind.

all i'm saying is the only guys I seem to attract are ugly or fat in other words unattractive.hey i'm not being picky or shallow I just want a guy who's easy on the eyes know what i'm saying one with good looks that I can look at and has a great personality of course. but also I want a byfriend so I can prove to everyone that i'm capable of getting a guy that i'm never going to become a lesbian a cat lady or get a sex change or stay single forever. cause I want to be able to also get married and have 2-4 kids. plus i'll b able to wear my grandma's wedding dress she has been saving it for whoever gets married I guess that means she is saving it for her granddaughters or something like that my mom told me the reason but I forgot it. neway help me .
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Be patient with getting a boyfriend. It's not gonna happen right away. Some things you can do to get a boyfriend quicker is to join a sport or join clubs to be more social with people. Get hang out with friends and go to the movies or maybe a party.

The best things come to those who wait.

Posted at 1:55 pm on Jan. 27, 2008

You sound like a loving girl that I'm sure you'll get a boyfriend soon enough.  

As for now, just keep being yourself and don't try and be anything other than who you really are. If you decide to do this, people will see that you know what you what with your life and if they like what they see, they'll jump along for the ride. Some of these people will be friends and others will be possible boyfriends. Just remember that if you're ever interested in a guy, you have to show interest - many guys are clueless and can't read signs that girls give so they need guidance as to what to do.

Trust me, guys don't all want skanks these days. As you get older, you'll see that people look more for others that can hold their own in a discussion. Relationships become more about love than lust (which is what you seem to be looking for!) so you'll be good to go!

Like you said though in your last paragraph, you might not want to look at the whole situation as "I want a boyfriend to prove to everyone else that I can." You want a boyfriend to feel loved, right? That's okay. But if you just look for any boy to show you can be in a relationship might not be the best way to look at it because it'll greatly decrease your standards and you should keep high standards because you seem like a classy person!

Anyways, I hope this all helps and I'm sure that things will be looking up in the future! Just be yourself and people will see that you're true!

Posted at 9:14 am on Dec. 23, 2007

You're not cursed or doomed, sweetie. It takes time to find a good guy who you like, and it's mutual. If you're in high school, try joining clubs and sports, you're best bet is finding them there. Or even look online such as myspace,  search in your city, you'll be surprised how many men of the type you're looking for are there.

Good luck!
Katie

Posted at 1:37 am on Dec. 23, 2007

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