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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 2:48 am on Dec. 23, 2007 Return to Inbox
Subject: Sociopathic? I need advice
I'm usually pretty level-headed. But when I clash with someone, even slightly, I get into a mode where I feel frustrated and brooding until I cruelly lash out. I want to hurt them, and I don't care if it's unfair.

I don't do this because anger is blinding my judgement. I do this because I feel a want to hurt them and it feels liberating and alive to hurt them and to say awful things to instigate drama. And apart from my head knowing it's wrong, I don't care - I don't feel care for the recipient of my cruel words.

I usually refrain, because my mind knows it's "wrong". But my instincts don't. And it takes a long time to subside. I'd be in an irritable, quietly frustrated state for a long time. Frustrated about nothing in particular - just feel closed up, thick, angry, trapped.

Lashing out makes me feel alive. It's not anger making me lose control of what I say. But conflict and manageable anger washing away whatever human compassion I had and replacing it with an almost sociopathic non-caring.

I don't know if something's wrong with me. It's hard to think through and understand because there's small elements of this in everyone and I'd almost believe that it's normal. But then something happens and I feel like I'm not human. Or like something's wrong with me, with my brain.

Or maybe it's an emotional wall against something painful. But shouldn't I at least be somewhat aware of this?


Why is this? I don't want to be like this. I'd like to understand this more so that I can work with the problem. So I'd appreciate any thoughts, opinions or speculations about this.

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Let me just first say that it's a great sign that you're thinking about this. Many people with similar personalities would most likely not question themselves and see things in a one-sided manner, but you seem to want to change which is excellent.

As for your condition itself, I don't think many of us here have the professional guidance to make a decision or to diagnose you because we don't know you personally. However, keeping a journal of things at all times might give you better insight into what goes on in your head. If you ever feel mad about someone or something, I'd suggest writing down your feelings immediately before acting upon them. This will give you clarity into your emotions and let you understand why you're doing what you're doing.

If you ever get the chance, you might want to see a psychiatrist (something I would hope you have considered). They will be able to properly diagnose and see where you should go in regards to your personality traits or emotions/desires that are unpleasant to you.

I think the most important thing is just to be aware of what you're doing at all times. Try not to let your mind drift. Try meditation and stick to a mantra. If your thoughts wander, come back to that simple saying that centers your being on something objective and not something clouded by your ego and emotions. Regardless of whether or not you have an antisocial personality, meditation will help you in many facets of your life and let you feel at peace with yourself!

Overall, although you may be unsatisfied with your current state of thoughts, I think it's great that you made an eHelp and desire to change! You're headed in the right direction and that's all you can ask of yourself! Keep it up!

Posted at 9:24 am on Dec. 23, 2007

I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone.  I do this some time too.  You are not sociopathic and you are not a bad person in feeling these things.  I have thoughts of hurting people all the time, I believe that it's natural.  It's a way of letting out the restrictions that society's social norms place on us.  It's the same prinicple as when many people sleep, they have sexually explicit and violent dreams.

As long as you don't act out these acts of violence then I believe that you are going to be fine.  Maybe talk to the person that you are angry at?  Change the subject to something that you don't disagree with them about?

If you want to give any more detail, I will be happy to give you my take. Just drop a PM.

~Shaun

Posted at 9:17 am on Dec. 23, 2007

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