Post edited at 7:23 am on Oct. 3, 2006 by kazzy0300

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im an extraordinary girl
In an ordinary world,
and i cant seem to get away

Realistically, you may not be able to tell but I suppose a good way of looking at things is to see where your last period was. If you had one since you broke up with your first boyfriend, then the chances are incredibly weighted towards the baby belonging to the second boyfriend.

If not, you need to go to the doctor and have a scan to find out how many weeks you are. As I'm assuming there was no overlap (you weren't having sex with both of them at the same time), you might be able to pinpoint things from there.

If neither of those ideas help, your next options are obviously more complex. For starters, you're going to have to decide what you're going to do with the baby. As you said, you regretted your first abortion but are you really ready to have a child? Are you able to care for it? Support it?

I suggest either way that you tell both guys whats going on and explain the situation. Should you choose to keep the baby, you may (although I'm not 100% sure) be able to have test that will allow some of the baby's DNA to be extracted (before its born) and then it can be compared with DNA from each of the guys so you'll be able to work out who's child it is. Alternatively, you can wait until the baby is born to have the test done.

Finally, getting pregnant once may have been an accident but doing it twice? I really suggest you learn how to use condoms properly as well as giving birth control pills some serious consideration.

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If you're considering abortion again, please think it through carefully. Even if you don't feel you could support the child, it could be fostered or adopted.

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Amoo

Just think about it, it's a big decision.

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Poor little tin man, still swinging his axe,
Even though his joints are clogged with rust.

You basically have three options:  keep it, abort it, or give it up for adoption.  I know that your abortion from your last pregnancy is something that you regret.  Do you think you would be able to go through another one?  If you don't want to go through that again, you could always look into giving the baby up for adoption.  They even have open adoptions, where you can pick the family to raise your baby, and you can even visit the baby sometimes.  It's a good option to look into.  

If you decide to keep it, you can find out who the father is when the baby is born by having the guys involved take a paternity test.  

We can't tell you what to do or what to decide.  Everything is up to you, and you have to choose what's right for you.  But it is important for you to see a doctor, talk to the possible fathers, and talk to your family.  They can help you decide what's best.  I feel for you, hun, I really do.  I know this must be a very scary and difficult situation for you.  But stay strong, you can get through it!  And don't listen to all the judgemental replies here.  I wish you luck in all of this.

Post edited at 7:58 am on Oct. 3, 2006 by SimplisticComplexity

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what kind of help do you want...in the end only you can deal with this...only YOU can decide what to do...you know in your heart you need to stop sleepin around..at leat i hope you do..USE A BLEEDIN CONDOM

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okay, she had a one night stand when she was 15. she had sex with a guy that she went out with for 2 years. and i suppose as a 'rebound' slept with that other guy. i dont call that sleeping around. when you say 'sleeping around', it makes it seem like she's sleeping with a different guy each weekend, when all we know is that she's had sex with three guys so far. whatever the case is, how about offering some advise rather then judgment?