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Am I stupid
for being with him
Replies: 7Last Post Jan. 8, 2007 9:06pm by Rastafarian
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My current boyfriend of a little over a year and father of my baby is a wonderful person. I love him with everything in me. The thing is, he's done a lot of bad stuff to me. He's been doing drugs behind my back, lied to me more times than I can count...He's never been able to say that he'd do anything for me. But I know that he loves me. My ex-boyfriend still loves me and wants me to be with him. He never did anything wrong to me in the three years we were together. He really would do anything for me and has. I still love him but I'm not in love with him. He's about to give up and move on. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I'm afraid I'll regret not going back to him forever. But I really really love my boyfriend. I tend to think with my heart. Am I being stupid?

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DeathsAngel


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Think of the kid. Do you want someone like that around your child?

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gregorymahony

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yes

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maceyface


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Nope. You have to be happy. The need to be happy is in no way stupid. In most situations, it's beneficial to think about it rather than to feel about it. As long as this guy is good to you and doesn't put you or your child in any danger, and you are IN LOVE with him, I would stay with him.

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LilShawty


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Do you want soembody like your boyfriend arounf your child even if he is the father? the other guy seems wayy better. seriously. and if he'll accept your child...thats a  keeper right there...

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kellbell2009


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sometime ur heart leads u in the wrong directions, like they said think about ur kid

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kirbyboo


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well, you said he does bad stuff and he's the father of your baby..so Im going to assume that you're not married...I think yes, you are being stupid because now that you have a baby...you're gonna have to start what's BEST for your baby and not yourself.

Post edited at 9:04 pm on Jan. 8, 2007 by kirbyboo

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Rastafarian


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I rather think your heart wants to reach out and "save" this person you've encountered that does drugs and lies to you. You feel you can change him, and you think he is quite a lovely person inside as well. Which is most likely why you've fallen for him. I'm sure he is a great guy and all. But you've really got to think logically on this and ask yourself some questions.

Do you think he will change?

- My opinion. I seriously doubt it, due to him already lying to you alot and doing things behind your back, whats to stop this from escalating?

Do you want your child to live and learn from a father who'd do these kind of things to you?

- Logical answer. No, of course you don't want your child to mistreat women (assuming your child is a boy) or learning that it is ok to be lied (assuming child is a girl) to and so on.

Do you see a bright future as a logical possibility with your upcoming family?

- Basically this consists of mumbo-jumbo such as, does he have a finacially stable job, could he be able to support this new family member appropriately  via finances, emotionally etc...

Knowing that you are with child and seeing yourself in such situations really requires you to think of the best possible outcome here for the raising of you and your child.

Good luck.

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