I knew something was wrong with her, and I've asked her what it was. She said she's just dealing with to much at the moment. I've told her I'm there for her and she can tell me anything, and I'd talk to her for as long as possible just to make her feel a little bit better. She says she knows this but she finds it hard just to let go, of her independent thinking I assume.

She wants help I know, she just has to let me help her. There must be something I can do to help her? It's hurting me to know she's down and I have no control over it. Any suggestions?

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Seeing as how she can only open up to you on her own terms and when she is prepared to makes it quite of a challenge because she it seems she is finding it difficult to regardless of what she wants.

It's of my personally opinion that she is closed up like this because of some past trama. Maybe if you'd like to get more indepth about it talk to her about why she is independant and what got her to have this attitude towards life and so on.

I'm suggesting here that maybe the way to open her up is not to pry at the problem that she is not telling you, but talk to her about that unwillinglyness in the first place, since that is most likely the underlying problem in this anyways. It will most likely be a very uncomfortable subject for her but I hope she'll be able to explain it to you.

Just to tell you, I'm much the same way as your girlfriend in some aspects and yes I have problems that I'm not willing to tell anyone. But sometimes I'd really like someone I could trust to psychoanalyze me kind of deal, get to the roots of this and so on. So maybe she is that same way.

Good luck.

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"Who are you?" Sophie asked.
She received no response to this either, but felt a momentary
confusion as to whether it was she or her reflection who asked
the question.