I don't really fall for girls that often. It's one who catches my eye every once in a great while, but most of the time I'm just interested in being a good friend to everyone I meet. However, earlier this year, I wound up being exceptionally taken with a new friend of mine. She's wonderfully kind, absolutely brilliant, hilarious, and is always fun to be around. My feelings are painfully obvious, as most of my friends have already brought it up with me and I didn't see any reason to hide it.

Then, enter the guy who's been my friend the longest of anyone I currently hang out with. He's totally awesome and has been a great friend for me. So when the two of them started to seem a little more than friendly, I decided that I wouldn't be a jerk and impede.

The problem is that they've been at this same stage where they're holding hands while watching movies, tickling one another, and cuddling nigh-constantly without going any further for the past three to four months. And try as I might, I can't seem to get over her. She's still just as awesome and I still find myself doting on her even though I know that she and my friend have awesome chemistry. I don't know if it's because they haven't actually changed their relationship to something more serious (and as such, my subconscious still hopes) or something else, but it's been an absolute pain to see them the way they are. My stomach churns about when I see them like they are and I wind up leaving houses where we're all spending the night early to avoid possible misbehavior on my part. I don't particularly enjoy feeling jealous. It makes me feel like a failure as a friend to both of them. It's just something that I can't help.

I'm considering just avoiding the houses, where they're the most together, and just hanging out during the day with as large a group as possible so that I can always distract myself with someone else. However because she is one of my better friends, romantic inclinations aside, I'd rather not skip out on a chance to hang out with her, seeing as she's recently taken up a job and school schedule that keep her occupied from morning till mid-to-late-evening, when little else is available for hanging out. (Trust me, as I plan most of what our group does, I've considered a lot of alternatives.)

I feel like I'm going to pop if I keep on getting stuck with them behaving the way they do on the couch next to me, but I would hate to lose a friend as good as her due to inactivity. So, would anyone care to offer up a suggestion?  

just tell her dude

-------
your death will come swiftly...

I think that may be a good idea to do whatever you can to avoid them. Wait it out, don't constantly be thinking about what they are doing and what they will do. Even though you say she is wonderful, realize that she isn't everything. You can enjoy other things while this is going on.

Another idea is talk to one of them or both of them, just tell them that it's bothering you and either tell them what you are going to do or what you want them to do. It isn't really your place to interfere with them, but as they are your friends, it may be best just to at least tell them.

Whatever you do will have some effects, so it's all up to you. Good luck.

-------
play the game of CONQUEST! (click here)