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basketballplayer06
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well if u trust him then u should be with him. u can't change the past but the future u can
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Bestm8ts
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firstly sorry to hear you are all in this situation.. first things first.. there is a baby.. i for one disagree with abortion so if i was in your position i wouldnt pressure him to choose (not saying you would..) and also even thou i guess he has been an idiot i would still support him.. he said he loves you and he is obviously sorry...
how do you feel about the situation, do you love him enough to work through this?? 2 years is a long commitment..
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hiphopatihop
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well if you really love him and you trust him that he's telling the truth about being sorry, then you could stay with him but it might take a lot of work to get over what happened. so i guess you'd have to just wait and see how it works out. because everyone makes mistakes, although this one would be very difficult to forgive and forget. hope this helped a little, good luck!
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If it was a one time thing then you might have to deal with it as you would a one time thing. Ask him why he did it and try and find out for definite what she is going to be doing with the baby. Also you might want to think about if he would have told you if she wasn't pregnant. I think her becoming pregnant will have been a big wake up call for him about cheating as well so unless there is something wrong with him, I doubt he would do it again.
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Yeah, he said it was a one time thing and that if she does have it he'll make sure he gives it everything it needs.
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dunebug
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Hmm, well general experience has taught us once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm sure it's totally not his intention to do it again. I'm sure he genuinely feels bad about it. BUT, a situation will arise again eventually where he has an oppertunity to have sex with another woman again. And if you take him back after he does it, then there's really little consequence to him doing it. I think if you decide to stay with him, you two would do well with some sort of couples counsilling. There was obviously a reason he cheated, something in the relationship jsut wasn't there, you need to look at and fix that. Maybe it's just a matter of spicing things up sexually or maybe it's deeper than that. But acting like it was just some freak thing he did, it was all him, or blaming her 100% is just going to set him up to do it again because the real base problem is still there. That aside -- if this woman decides to keep the baby they have, it will change things for you guys as well. Are you prepared to share him with a child? And another woman (to an extent)? He will have to pay money to her, and maybe decide he wants to be involved in his child's life. Which means also being tied to this other woman, having to see her and communicate with her and be civil with her. Maybe bringing the child in to your life. They become a package. Stuff to think about.
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He says she doesn't know if she's going to keep it, but he doesn't want it and she knows that so she's thinking about what to do....he told me he wants to be with me and that he only loves me but he made a mistake...He's txt me soo many times and when i called him he couldn't even talk he was just crying.....soo i don't know what to do. I love him so much and it's hard to let him go. So any advice would help right now... 
