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Boyfriend didn't seem stressed out after we had sex...
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Long story short. I had sex on Sunday and it was my first time. We stupidly got caught in the moment and we didn't use protection.  The day before we were fooling around (he had a condom on) and the condom split which meant I had cum on me but it didn't go inside.  He said it was a close call and had we been having actual sex and the happened then we would probably have to go to the pharmacy in the morning.  

So after we had sex I was panicking about the whole thing whereas he was as calm as can be.  He blamed himself after I admitted feeling disappointed in myself however he didn't suggest i went to pharmacy to take plan B. It just didn't really get mentioned again which got me thinking if he just wasn't bothered by it.  The next day I took plan B anyway and I haven't mentioned it to him because I thought he might mention it and he didn't.  Is his reaction to this a reason for concern?  Should I tell him I took plan B?  I kinda didnt think it would be necessary.

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2:58 pm on Nov. 2, 2016
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Don't care, had sex probably sums up his thoughts. You guys already went over what you would do in that situation. I wouldn't bother telling him about the plan b. It's all set.

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Quote: from ChasingVisions95 at 12:11 am on Nov. 3, 2016

Don't care, had sex probably sums up his thoughts. You guys already went over what you would do in that situation. I wouldn't bother telling him about the plan b. It's all set.
^ Agree with that.


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Definitely make sure your more careful in the future until your ready but I think you have nothing to worry about. You should be aware of your menstrual cycle and the times your most fertile when considering having sex. If you plan on being sexually active from now on, you might want to consider getting on the pill.

As for your boyfriend, he sounds like he is mindful enough and judging by how you described him, he places trust in you. Trust is a powerful element of any relationship. I wish you both the best.


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It's your body. If you dont wanna have a kid right now then your being responsible And taking plan b.....him being calm is normal tho. He was able to think about stuff. Everything is fine 😊

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I think you should tell him and tell him that his lack of concern upset you. Holding in things that bother you in relationships only leads to more problems. Please be more careful in the future. It's not good to take Plan B often. Maybe get yourself on a birth control pill or another form of contraceptive.

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Maybe he didn't seem stressed because he didn't want to stress you out?

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If he's your bf, you should let him know how you're feeling about it.  At the very least, you'll find out why he didn't say anything.  Just don't make a big thing of it.

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Thanks we spoke about it this evening.  I asked him why he wasn't really stressed about the situation and he said it's because he wants kids and he's ready for kids.  Then he said something about knowing we needed to develop our relationship first.

I asked why he mentioned emergency bc before the event and then didn't bother mentioning it after we had sex. He said he didn't want to bring it up again to make it sound like he didn't want kids. He asked if i went to the pharmacy the next day and I told him I did. I'm not sure what to make of this tbh.


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You had a discussion about Plan B before you had sex. Then you had unprotected sex and you got Plan B. You just seem to be freaked out because it was your first time. There was a lot to worry about, but it doesn't mean that he had to freak out about it. An intelligent discussion about how you are going to proceed with your sex life in the future is important, but I would not get all excited just because he did not freak out.

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