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Replies: 18Last Post Aug. 29, 2006 8:49pm by holysaiyan1
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since iv started college in september iv made 3 new friends.well they and other people in my class at college have said im realy quite in class but my 3 friends have said im realy loud outside class.iv been bullyed in the past for a long time and i thinks thats wot could of made me quite in class.but how can i get more confidance in class to talk to other people and to speak out.

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Erm, I think its in Teen dating and relationshipd about 'HOw to overcome shyness!' Try that

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Maybe take some time and see what happenmd with these friends. maybe they will be able to help bring out you in the class.

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theres nothing wrong with being shy. Dont see it as such a bad thing.

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hmm also remember that it's college know.. you need to learn to speak your mind otherwise those ideas may never come out and may just lie there forgotten until the end of time..

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Quote: from feelinGroovy at 12:55 pm on Feb. 26, 2006

theres nothing wrong with being shy. Dont see it as such a bad thing.

i agree with that, or at least doest have to be seen as shy - maybe ur more comfortable with silence, dnt feel u always have to talk to ppl....if anythin, that takes a lot of confidence and u must b pretty sure of urself.
u cant show all aspects of personality in 1 class, its ur mates who matter and the only ones who need to see it.
if ur not happy, then just fake the 'confidece' - pretend, force it and before u know it ppl will see u that way and ull naturally live up to it.
just do what u want for u and not for wat others may think

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Well, in class your supposed to be learning by listening to the teacher so it's a good thing you pay attention.  I sort of the same way.  If a person saw me in class and then out somewhere with certain people they would think I have a split personality or something.  It's good that you made some friends.  I have made a few in college too.  It seems like not that many are friendly in the first place though at my college.

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After being bullied i belive it can be extreamly hard to get your confidence back.
But you'll get there, your probally outside your comfort zone in class, like alot of shy people, over time you'll get more and more used to it, and the real you will be un-leached..
goodluck with college, stay strong, and dont forget to smile

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I think shyness is a normal response for some people after being bullied especially if the bullying starts/started at an early age.  Now shyness is an irrational fear of something, and Im guessing that for you it's a fear of being made fun of.  You might think that if you say something stupid people will tease you.

First of all you need to realize that most of those people are gone (high school has lots of them but once you're in college/university there is a smaller amount of them).  People respect you for yourself.  If you say something stupid, just laugh it off, that's what most other people do as well.  It's good that you've made some friends.  You could also try "Overcoming Shyness" (topic in Teen Dating...)

For your self-esteem, do things that you're good at, hang around good/fun people that accept you for who you are and won't make fun of you in any serious way.  And start thinking positively if you're not doing so.  Experience really helps, just talk to anyone around you and you'll see that people aren't the way you think they are (ie they won't make fun of you, and if they do, then just ignore it or have a laugh).

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Well... from what I've experienced, people don't go to class to make friends. I'd say the number of friends I've made in my classes is probably in the single digets. However... I've made a ton of friends at the dorms or just around campus. Don't get down on yourself because you have no one to sit with in class or whatever.... most people don't. Instead, go to the gym at your school or a school function and you'll meet people with your same interests. That's the easiest and most fun way to meet people. And spend plenty of time with the friends you already do have because they know people too and will introduce you. And don't be sad about being shy. There's nothing bad about it. Usually shy people are the most level headed and sure of themselves people out there, and that's awesome! Good luck!

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well, thats not necessarily a bad thing, unless your imput in class counts towards your final grade.

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thanks and i know they have gone the peple who use to bully me isit a gd idear to tell my college tutor why im quite and she if she has advice for me.

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I still havn't made a single college friend, but my classmates all seem like douches so I'm fine with that.  But if you want friends just find somebody that seems interesting and make small talk, it'll eventually grow.

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i can only say 2 u never mind wht others do just believe in ur self...stood up , be confident..and jet set go...

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