Theres a PhD student I know well who has been cheating on his gf since september with an MA student. We are in edinburgh and his gf is in dublin. She doesnt know. He is really messing up the MA student by refusing to have a relationship with her. He has also made passes at other girls.

I met his gf once and im thinking of sending her an fb message telling her. I dont know if its the right thing to do - but if it were happening to me id want to know. His actions are having an awful impact on the girl hes cheating with AND the staff and othef students who have to deal with her when she is particularly upset - especially when he goes to see his gf.

Is it the right thing for me to do?

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'Before me floats an image, man or shade,
Shade more than man, more image than a shade;'
- W.B. Yeats, Byzantium

The fact is, that other woman could be having a loving relationship with somebody who ISN'T cheating on her in Dublin. Imagine how much more fun she would be having if she didn't have a fucker back home messing up.

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It doesn't mean that much to me,
Sometimes I don't mean that much to you
And I don't even know what I'm hiding for...
And I don't even know what I'm crying for...

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"Ravenclaw is where the failed Slytherins go."

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The fact is, that other woman could be having a loving relationship with somebody who ISN'T cheating on her in Dublin. Imagine how much more fun she would be having if she didn't have a fucker back home messing up.

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i completely agree. i also am a firm believe in karma... if i know that something terrible is happening to someone, even if it's a stranger, and i don't do anything then i'm sure the same thing would one day happen to me... you never know

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Made weak in time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

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I always think that a third party should never get involved but it doesnt seem like the guy is gona have the cope on to break up with the girlfriend or stop cheating so in this case i do think the girlfriend should be told especially if she lives so far away where she actually would have no clue what is going on.

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I haven't seen you in months, years maybe

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'Before me floats an image, man or shade,
Shade more than man, more image than a shade;'
- W.B. Yeats, Byzantium

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I haven't seen you in months, years maybe

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Have you spoken to the guy about it? Told him how you feel about the situation? It might make you feel better about it all if you can convince him to sort it out himself.

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Week in and week out,
Your lucky charms will always let you down,
Maybe next week we'll see,
Maybe