Hey there, Control is something that is desired by everyone. When you have a lot of things that you are in control of your anxiety is more-likely to be at an all-time high. Your father limiting your control is frustrating, but in the long run no teenager can handle all of the stresses of freedom. Have you done something recently that made your parents second-guess your behavior? Were you caught in something that did not please them?
One thing you can do to gain more trust is complying to everything. If your father says something you don't agree with, accept it and don't talk back. At least pretend to listen. If he sees that you are taking responsibility by listening and not talking back, he will probably see you as more mature and is likely to see you as ready for more responsibility. If he asks you to do something, and regardless of what it is you immediately do it, this would also gain you major points.
About your grades, it's good that you are in control of school. In the end, this will get you the farthest. Keep up this habit. Be careful that this is the only thing that you fight to "control."
People with control issues are more likely to:
Be depressed
Cut themselves
Be anorexic
Commit suicide If you are experiencing any of these thoughts, or have experienced them in the past, then it is very important that you seek help immediately. I would advise you to get set up with a counselor. Try getting put on medication and see if this controls your depression.
Even if you aren't experiencing depression to the extent of self-harm, you obviously have some emotional problems right now that could use some balancing. A trial of depression medication would probably be beneficial to you.
About boys, don't worry about being rejected. Honestly, when you date you run the risk of this. It's a very high risk to. At this time it doesn't sound like your emotions are equipped to handle such drama that boys often bring with them.
Put trust in your parents. It seems so annoying, but any decision they make is always in your best interest. Every parent's goal is to see their child succeed in life. You may hate them now, but you will thank them later. One of the few true cliches about life.
If you ever need any more advice or have additional questions feel free to respond on here or send me a PM.
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