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i've been very stressed out lately. if any of you know me by now, you'd know i worry about my future a lot. at my current state, i have a huge speed bump ahead of me and i'm riding pretty low. please let me run them down with you and suggest my game plan. this is really important to me and i've planned this out for nearly 4 years, so if you don't have solid advice as far as jobs, relationships, or housing, then please don't post. only reason i put it in here is that i didn't deem it as an emergency since i already have some plans to fix it. to the matter at hand.
i'm not going to candy-coat this or make excuses, but i'm pretty sure i'm going to fail out of my major at college (Cabinetmaking and Wood Technology). if i do, this leaves me with living with my parents until i find an apartment/house. there's a problem with that though. should i find one close to my parents in case something were to happen? or do i find one near my college or work? or instead of an apartment, go straight for a house instead of wasting money on an apartment that i'll never own? and with an apartment/house comes expenses. i'm a mere cashier at Wal-Mart, but am clearly qualified for a management position, though no one has taken me up on that offer. but the thing is, this isn't what i went to college for. i want to at least work in a mill. what i was thinking was taking up the management position (if the fuckers would let me), run around from mill to mill trying to apply, and take the first offer. maybe sell one of my pieces to a customer or make a new piece to have someone as a reference besides my instructor. or do you think taking a management position would solidify my base in that run-down hellhole and i wouldn't be able to get out? or would that in-turn look better on my resume? and with the whole "living on my own thing", there's relationships. i've always been scared of going straight into the real world on my own. i've always had school and friends right along side of me. but with all this happening, this means i'll have to let go of my friends at home, at school, and maybe even at my current job. and what saddens me the most is that working in a place like a mill, it'll most likely be male dominant. which leaves me to come home to nothing but my empty house/apartment. i'm so stressed and depressed right now just thinking about all of it. actually, i have been for the past few weeks. it makes me think if i'm really cut out to do all of this. Post edited at 1:41 pm on April 17, 2008 by CraziJ
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Hey, wow. that is a lot of stuff. Ok, first things first....failing is definite? there is no alternative? because obviously, staying in school seems preferable. I am gong to assume, based on your post, that there is no chance of this, because you sound pretty definite, (although, i know when i am in crisis mode i often ignore obvious truths right in front of me) You make amazing furniture.Can I just say that? Have you ever thought about just selling some pieces on the side? maybe working up to just having a small business or something like that? it would allow you to make more pieces (which would help you to get a mill job if that is what you really want) it would supplement your income, and it would get you references. Re: finding a place to live. houses are a big investment, I would not recommend that step unless you wait to buy it until you find a job you plan on keeping for a while. Always looking for places to live near your parents means always giving yourself the ability to fall back on them, never branching out, being solely responsible for your life. I think you should not look for a place near them for that reason, but if you end of living with them, then cool. re: walmart. Walmart can be a decent job, especially if you are getting to become a manager, it is a good stepping stone, and looks good on resumes. I would not walk away from this job, until you need to. Don't worry, you can always get out. I don't see you perma-walmarting it. but there is no reason not to take advantage of the opportunities in front of you. I hope that helps. I know its not a lot, but i want you to know that you can make it.
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Whether you're cut out for it or not, there comes a time in everyone's life (I don't care if you live at home till your 40) when they have to step out on their own, venture into that world of uncertainty and danger and either stand on his own two feet or fall flat on his face. You're at the right stage in life to be doing this, so put thoughts out of your head that you might not be cut out for it, because everyone who isn't strung out or mentally retarded is capable of making it. It's the American way. I'll say to begin with that I know a grand total of nothing about the world of mill employment and carpentry, but I'll give you what advice I can about what things I do know. For starters, where you get your house should not be built on the worst case scenario. It should be based on realistic pragmatism. Where will it be easiest for you to do all the things you need to do? Are you spending most of your time at school, your parents house, or work? Pick the location that answers that question and start shopping for a place to live there. As to whether or not to get an apartment or a house, it's all about what you can reasonably afford. Sure, it would be nice to have a house that you could potentially own one day, but if you can't afford the payments, then you're only hurting yourself by getting one. And don't just think about what is possible. Think about what is practical. You don't want to sink all of your money into house payments or into rent every month. Be ready to settle for less now in order to save up and have more later. Turning to the unfortunately widespread fear of being forever alone, this needn't be the case for you regardless of whether or not you work in a mill. I'm not sure why you think you need to get rid of all of your friends, but I see no reason why this should be the case. If you decide to live near school, why not find a friend from school who also needs a place to stay and get somewhere with two rooms? If you are going to live near work, why not find a friend from work who needs a place to stay? In doing so, you divide the cost of the house or apartment and eliminate that empty feeling that comes from living completely alone. Don't know anyone off hand? Put out an ad. There are always people looking for sane roommates. Striking out on your own does not mean divorcing yourself from everyone you know. When it comes to this manager's position, take it if they give it to you. You'll only have trouble getting out if you let yourself. In the meantime it will mean more money and a better looking job on your resume. Starting out like this, more money and better qualifications are almost always in need. Hope that was helpful. I'd be happy to clarify anything that wasn't ideally worded.
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