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 Replies: 3 — Last Post April 17 2:43pm by amiee
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rufoo
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Well apparently , shes going to do be really depressed knowing that her grandma's countdown has already started.
Try to convince her that even though she has her last breaths, she'll always be with you. All the things she gave you whether its possessions or words of life, it'll always be with you .. and so with her. And whenever she feels that her grandma is not there, just remember what great things she gave you, and she'll always be in her heart.
And I dont know but when usually a relative or someone close of mine dies, In my dreams , I can see them for the last time or so. Its not going to be her last to see her grandma. Yes, I had this kind of loss for me too, and I kind of feel her thoughts because I had to keep my head up when my grandma/grandpa were on their deathbed.
But no matter where I am, whenever I feel lonely without them, I know that its not going to be EVER my last to see them.
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amiee
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I'm so sorry that your friend is having to go through this right now. As unfortunate as it is, death is something that affects the great majority of us, and it's something we'll all have to deal with in life eventually. It must be terribly difficult for your friend right now, but she will get through this - through time. I understand how cliched and annoying it can be when a person suggests time as a natural healer, but in all honesty, sometimes that's all it can take. A little time to heal the wound that's been left, y'know? Honestly, there's not a huge amount that you can do. You can be there for your friend - to listen to her if she needs to talk, to give her hugs and help her when the tears come, yeah? It'll be hard for her for a while, yes, but she'll recover - she'll grieve, but she'll also move on with her life. I suggest that you do your best to make it clear to her that you're there for her if ever she should need you, but at the same time, carry on relatively normally, yeah? If she's allowed to sit and wallow in her own sadness then it might become even worse for her, but if she has people around her who are encouraging and reminding her to live her own life, it might help her gets past all this sadness. Most importantly, just let her know you're there. If she needs you, she will come to you, no doubt. It might take a wee bit of time for things to start getting better for her again personally, but given a little time to grieve, she'll be ok and she'll pull through. Keep an eye on her, yeah? All a friend can to at a time like this is really be there and, believe me, it can truly do the world of good.
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it's broken beyond repair. it's in a million little pieces.
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