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speaking of rape.
(my rape, that is...)
Replies: 22Last Post April 27 4:39pm by DarkAngels11
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back in september, when I was thirteen years old, a boy took it upon himself to force his penis inside of me against my will, at my sister's sweet sixteen.

I tried to tell my sister. she didn't believe me.


a week or two ago, I told my best friend. I think he might have forgotten.

but...I really want to talk about it.

really.

and I know that...I know that that sounds weird. but...I feel like I need to talk about it. I'm having nightmares EVERY NIGHT and...and...


how do I bring it up to a friend that might have forgotten it even happened? Because, I'm sure he'll listen.  I'm positive.  trust me, he will.

I just.....I really need to talk about this. I need to get it out of me...

how do I...start the conversation? How do I talk to him about it?


5:19 pm on April 26, 2008
caniloveyou1


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just tell him

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crimsonnk


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Confront the guy? or talk to someone who will listen?

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angelofmusic22


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tell him you've been having really really bad nightmares, and u need 2 talk about it. then u can ask, remember when i told u about me being raped? etc. hope that helps!

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SheMintsEclectic


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Why do you believe that he forgot?



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xoxLILAxox


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ask him if he remembers back then and remembers the party...
or just tell him you have something very personal and improtant you need to explain
and then slowly work up to it! xox
pm me if u wanna talk
ive had the same happen to me hun!

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BackPorch


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You think that the best friend that you told last week forgot? Trust me, he didnt.

He might think its akward to bring it up, but he didnt forget about it. If you need to talk about it with him just tell him you want to talk about it. He will remember..

If you want to talk about it with someone who doesnt know you, then you can always message me. I would love to hear from you

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Stephanie


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Quote: from SheMintsEclectic at 5:21 pm on April 26, 2008

Why do you believe that he forgot?


...mostly, it's just my paranoia convincing me that he forgot. I don't know if he ever really believed me to begin with...


5:22 pm on April 26, 2008
Dark Dragon


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start with ' do you remember about what told you the other day?' or something

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Msw2010


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start off with "i have something i need to tell you that is very serious" and go from there

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The Panic

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You most certainly need to tell someone. A friend, however, might not be the best choice. I recommend telling your parents. Hopefully upon telling them they can comfort you and get your a professional counselor.

Counselors are wonderful people who devote their lives to helping people just like you.

I hope the best for you.

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Anxiety is at it's high... Welcome to The Panic


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amiee


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I promise you, it doesn't sound weird that you want to talk about what happened. And I'm so, so sorry that you're sister didn't believe you. I just can't understand people who ignore such things, and I am sorry she didn't believe you. I'm really glad that didn't put you off telling anyone else, though.

As for starting the conversation... well, however you do it, it's going to be difficult. I would think that maybe your friend hasn't forgotten, because something like that would be pretty difficult to forget coming from your best friend, but perhaps he just doesn't know whether or not you want to talk about it? Or maybe he doesn't know what to say? However, if you really feel like you want to talk to him then you absolutely should. Maybe just start by bringing up the previous conversation you had. Asking him if you can have a chat, and let him know what's on your mind. Just saying, "remember when I told you about what happened at my sister's party? well, i really could do with talking about it" and taking it from there, y'know?

Maybe even write him a wee letter if you can't think of all the words off the top of your head.

If things don't work out the way you plan in regards to telling him, would you possibly think of telling someone else? Like a parent or professional?

Best of luck to you, though. I hope you manage to get the words out to him, and that you feel a wee bit better after speaking to him.

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as he circled all around my world


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carrington9498


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hes proberly lying

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u know wat i mean

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hard candy


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go up to him and be like i need to get some thing off my chest i told u about it befor but its still bothering me and im having bad night mares  and i just need some on to talk to

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The Panic

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Tell your parents.

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