She's pushiing me to attend a college right by home that I really don't like. My biggest reason not wanting to go is that it's so close by & just not the kind of school I always pictured myself going which I guess is kind of stupid, but it's not a good school academically either.

I recieved an even larger scholarship from them today, making the total cost $20,000.

She is okay with schools that are 2-3 hours away, but the ones I recieved admission from are all private & close to $50,000 which my mom is not willing to pay when that private school gave me such a decent scholarship. My favorite state school is cheaper than all of these, but it's about 6 hours away, & mom just can't deal with the long distance.

Taking out a loan seems unrealistic because I'm considering graduate school & I highly doubt my parents would ever co-sign.

Blah, thanks for listening.

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honestly, she needs to realize that whether you are 2 hrs away or 30 hrs away, its not like you're gonna come home everynight. either way, you are 'away'....besides, 6 hrs is NOT that far...i'm sorry your mom is holdin on so tight :(

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She seriously expects it :(
She actually just mentioned how I will be able to have dinner a few times a week with her & she'll know exactly what I'm up to since I'll be so close to home ugh.

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I don't think there's much I can say to you except that you have to live your own life and not your Mum's. I know that's hard. I know you don't want to hurt her and I know you have money to think about. Sometime though you are going to have to make your own way, financially and emotionally, and now may be as good a time as ever. I know you mentioned graduate school, but right now your focus should be on getting the best college experience you can NOW. You really need to make sure you do this FOR YOU and in the way that is best FOR YOU.

College is the start of your adult life and the beginning of the friendships and education that will lay the foundations for the whole of the rest of your life. It is imperative that you do this for yourself and that you make the decision that's best for you and if that means taking unpleasant financial consequences then DO IT! It's better than taking a route that isn't going to lay the foundations for an independent life and which will only lead to your mother continuing to control you even as you progress through college and out into life.

Just weigh up the long term costs of this situation and the long term gains and you'll see what I mean. RIght now you stand to lose so much if you let your mum manipulate yo into living the life SHE wants for you. You will lose your one chance to really define your independence and stand on your own two feet. If you do this for yourself though then you will be starting a life of independence and free thinking that will propel you to achieve and succeed.

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GAH. PARENTS.

I don't think there's much I can say to you except that you have to live your own life and not your Mum's. I know that's hard. I know you don't want to hurt her and I know you have money to think about. Sometime though you are going to have to make your own way, financially and emotionally, and now may be as good a time as ever. I know you mentioned graduate school, but right now your focus should be on getting the best college experience you can NOW. You really need to make sure you do this FOR YOU and in the way that is best FOR YOU.

College is the start of your adult life and the beginning of the friendships and education that will lay the foundations for the whole of the rest of your life. It is imperative that you do this for yourself and that you make the decision that's best for you and if that means taking unpleasant financial consequences then DO IT! It's better than taking a route that isn't going to lay the foundations for an independent life and which will only lead to your mother continuing to control you even as you progress through college and out into life.  

Just weigh up the long term costs of this situation and the long term gains and you'll see what I mean. RIght now you stand to lose so much if you let your mum manipulate yo into living the life SHE wants for you. You will lose your one chance to really define your independence and stand on your own two feet. If you do this for yourself though then you will be starting a life of independence and free thinking that will propel you to achieve and succeed.

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I understand & I agree with most of it, but I really don't want to go behind her back & take out a loan for schools that I might not know enough about to know if they're right for me. Having a lot of debt is not my biggest concern, ruining the relationship with my mom is, as crazy as that sounds considering it's about going to a school i like. I just need to figure out what words i can use to convince her to let me make my decision :(


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