plz help.

The best I can offer you is to truly cherish the time you have with her now.  I don't know what the condition is, but if you can, help her out as much as you can.  Support her, be there for her, and most importantly, talk to her and leave behind no regrets.

I wish there was more I could say, or give you some miracle cure, but you need to do your best to stay strong.  Talk to friends that you find close, maybe see if you can talk to a counsellor at school so that you have someone to talk to, a teacher maybe, or another close relative that could understand how you're feeling.  At a time like this, I personally think those that are close to you are the best people that can help you, even if they can't take the pain away, they can let you know that you have their support.

Best of luck, wish I could have offered you something better to go by, and I'll be hoping for a miraculous change in your mother's health.

First of all, you need to recognize that people are born and people die. This is a fact of life that nobody can get around, as sad as it may be sometimes. Things just happen and there's nobody to blame for it (especially not you - it's easy to blame yourself. Never get caught up in that kind of thinking!).  Accepting this and your mother's death will be a tolling process all in its own, but all it takes is clearing your mind and putting everything in place so that you can make sense of it all.

Secondly, life does go on. Before my mom died, I couldn't possibly imagine life without her, but 10 years later, I try picturing my life with her and it would be so different that I can't possibly imagine it. Of course, my mom dying was a horrible thing, but despite it being horrible, it did lead to many great things. I met people I wouldn't have, I went to places I never would have gone to, etc. Remember that no matter how horrible a situation is, good things will always come your way as a result. But don't get me wrong in thinking that this somehow diminishes the pain of a mother's death - it doesn't. I'm just asking you to keep this in mind as you picture your future without her because it will be a great one no matter what.

Lastly, remember that you're not alone. Your family is going to be suffering from the loss as well. Be sure to be open with them and don't hold anything back. Cry when you need to cry and try to live your life as you normally would. Also, as time goes on, be sure to talk about your mother with your family so you can reflect on the memories and good times. This is something I wish I had done more because while I vaguely remember my mother, I see and notice things I didn't back when I was 11. As a result, my memories of her are obscured and more like a distant and faint memory, almost as if I've forgotten about her, which hurts me deeply. Be sure not to let this happen to yourself.

If you need any more help on this, you can always feel free to PM me.

Post edited at 4:58 pm on May 5, 2008 by Bud2400