My other friend, let's call her Mandy, was best friends with Tanya. Tanya started ruining her life and Mandy was always there. Then Tanya tried to steal Mandy's boyfriend. Mandy and her boyfriend are VERY close and VERY obviously meant to be. Tanya was so obvious about it and Mandy ended the friendship. It wasn't pretty, and Mandy could've been nicer about it, but Tanya stepped WAY over the line.

So now I'm still friends with Tanya, even though I had no respect for her in the first place (for ruining her life). Tanya is currently trying to take MY boyfriend. I can't stand that she sees how happy I am with him and how much we're on live and yet STILL chooses to go behind my back in trying to "get him." Not, I have to say, my boyfriend has standards that her pathetic ass falls far below. He would NEVER cheat on me. We are very much in love and there is no chance of us breaking up any time soon.

But my boyfriend is friends with Tanya. They weren't friends before we started going out and they're not very close. He just wants the both of us to be there for her. He doesn't see that she's trying to get him... or how much it hurts me.

I'm going to tell him EXACTLY how I feel about the situation tomorrow. I'm going to tell him that I can't be in a friendship with her. I think he'll respect me on that much of it. But I don't want him to be friends with her. I'm just afraid that wont be enough to convince him NOT to be her friend. I know it sounds selfish, but I want him to have nothing to do with her. Once he sees how much she's betraying me, I really don't know if he'll be on my side. I wish I could just make him UNDERSTAND.

Any advice is much appreciated. I really don't know what to do and I need assurance. Thanks so much.

Post edited at 10:35 pm on May 3, 2008 by visval11

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"Love is like a flower, even the most beautiful kind dies." -Till Lindemann

View it from his perspective: He wants to help tanya out and he can't see any problem with that, he loves you and doesnt care if Tanya wants him its not going to happen so why shouldnt he at least help her out. You not trusting him enough to let him help Tanya out is gonna seem mean and selfish of you to him.

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