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I Need Some Help Please...

Replies: 6 — Last Post June 24 2:44pm by Sunshine Buddy

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( Anonymous )

I applied for Security Supplement Income(SSI), and I got approved. I am going to be getting $658 a month. I also got unemployment for $188. I am living with my boyfriend (Social Security knows this), and he is paying everything right now. He is making about $4,000 a month. He has a lot of medical bills right now, so it is a good thing that I am going to get paid. I also qualify for disability which is going underway.
Basically what is going to happen is that I am going to get this money and it is all going to be given to my boyfriend. Which he has determined. I will not see one cent of my money. It will go to rent and food and the electric bill. But it kinda gets me mad because I am not going to see a penny. I would like at least $20 from my money to have. But I understand he has his bills. And I want to help, but to a certain extent. Our rent is $1075, so I could pay half and pay the electric and half the food which would round to $637. And I would have more than $100 for other things, like my cell phone bill. But he has it set in his head that all the money will go directly to him. How should I talk to him about this?

9:17 pm on June 23, 2008

LindaRains93

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very carefully and exsplain evrything very carefully

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Linda Raines

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BackPorch

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Why should he get all of it? Isnt the check made out to you? Just give him the right amount.

If you don't know how to talk to him about this.. you should think about how strong your relationship is.

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The Lawyernator

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Tell him the cold hard facts. Explain to him it\'s your money, but you want to work as a team to pay the bills and such.

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Lulamae

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You need to explain this to him. why are you living with a guy whom you can't tell this?

Is he just there for financial support? No? Then tell him so! Tell him that you need a bit of the security of having your own money. It gives you support, because that way you can at least safe some up for emergencies. DO safe some up for emergencies. There have been so many women that got thrown out by their boyfriends without a cent to their name. Even if you just safe 50 dollars a week it would be a start. I also get what you mean by just wanting some of your own money. I wouldn't always want to ask my guy if I can buy coffee or a t-shirt!

I'm sure he'll understand, too. Just tell him. Have a long discussion about why you want this. Make sure to take the night of from everything else to talk about this. It's really that important!

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( Anonymous )

I just don't want him to think that I am being selfish and greedy. I want to help and all, I am just afraid he will think I am a money horder or something.

9:26 pm on June 23, 2008

Sunshine Buddy

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That money is being given to you. You decide what you do with that money.

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