I was diagnosed with a serious health problem in April. When I got to come home from the hospital, we started hanging out once in a while because she lives rather close to me. She's been seeing her boyfriend, more recently, her fiance for 4 years now.

Lately, things have gotten more involved. While there has been no kissing or physical interaction, I do feel close to her. She flirts, I flirt. We talk on Facebook or on the phone a few nights a week; sometimes til 3am.

Last night we went to a park along the river. I brought my laptop so we could watch movies in the park. After we finished watching, she scooted up against me, playfully touched me a lot and gave me some great looks while lying under the stars. There seems to be a lot of sexual tension. We've both come to a conclusion that we'd date one another had she and her fiance not met.

But I'm not about to break her up with her fiance. That's NOT my intention. She's the one mostly making the moves.

I've never felt this close to another girl before.

Girls: any ideas?

You need to be able to accept both outcomes, either the happy ending or the not so happy ending. If you think you can do that (well, i'd say either way you'd have a 99% chance to say yes wtihout much thought).

If so, then there nothing wrong with it, just make sure you don't trigger any inappropriate moves, though by knowing that she's already engaged, I personally feel that its a serious 'honour' issue there . . Which is why, its best you don't even try to suggest anything to her about it . .Just one of the principles of chilvary I guess . .

If you don't mind the wait, and if you don't mind losing everything you invested over the wait, then I guess its fine, Otherwise, an absolute no, because a lot of guys go crazy when they u-know-what.

Key of reference: If you really do love her ('like' doesn't equate to anything under any circumstances), you will do eveyrthing you can to ensure her happiness in life. You know what I mean. . .

-------
The key to victory is the element of surprise.
When that doesn't work, I guess I just gotta gun you down.

I asked her if she wanted to do it again soon and she said yes.

Thanks for advice guys.

---

Sounds like a girl WHO is NOT READY FOR COMMITMENT.

---

A good chance, can't bet 100% though . . She might just consider you a close friend and nothing more ..  Trust me my close friends tend to seem like much more to , to be amazed with - a very large number of wierdos out there . .

Maybe she's just more expressive than others? Nevertheless, the same rule applies, if you can't accept reality of she gets married to her fiance' then it would be best to part a little bit starting from now . . .

If things persist for too long you may have to pop the question, but trust me, its a very intricate situation . . the final decision is yours to make, we can only give you suggestions . .

-------
The key to victory is the element of surprise.
When that doesn't work, I guess I just gotta gun you down.