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 Replies: 11 — Last Post June 6 7:58pm by cha chi
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( sugar booger )
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So I'm just letting it out. I know no one on here really cares, but writing helps me figure things out... I don't know. I guess if you have anything to say, go for it. But if you're going to be a jerk, please don't bother.
I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago. I am having a hard time with it, not because I am stuck on HIM, I'm stuck on the relationship. I'm stuck on the fact that I've lost the plans that we made, and I'm stuck on the fact that I am now alone. It sounds juvinile and stupid, but I've been in a relationship for almost three years. Not with this last guy, but in general. I haven't been single since my Junior Year in highschool. Now Im in college, on my own in a new city, and just not sure of anything. I have moments where I feel super strong and independent, excited about my new life... excited about what will happen. But I do miss the security of knowing there is someone there who loves me.
My friends have been great through this, but it also made me realize how I've also pushed them away.
I guess there is nothing to fill that little empty spot, nothing anyone can do to make me feel better, I'll just believe in the cliched "With time, it will pass."
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Experience is just what happens when you don't get what you want.
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beanaxx
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your not alone.
youlle get through it.
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iluvkeatin
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why did you break it off?
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Nothing is as easy as it looks, everything takes longer
than you expect & if anything can go wrong it will-
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necronomicon servant
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i know how you feel.
hey even a guy can care right?
that happened to me 2x in the last 2 years
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The nightmare will never end!
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chicklover
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i care
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( sugar booger )
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I broke it off with him because I had to move home for the summer, three hours away. He was the jealous controlling type, which makes him sound awful but I guess in his defense, he wasn't toooo bad. But he got angry with me because I kept changing my mind about whether I would take this job (that keeps me three hours away from him) again NEXT summer. We were going to try to make this one work, but it just couldn't.
So we got in a fight, and I broke up with him. And there is no question of closure, it is definitely over. And I'm not bummed about him, I know I can do better :)
I'm just... in one of those "low" moods.
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Experience is just what happens when you don't get what you want.
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zigily
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Pretty much everyone feels like that when they have a break up. I think the hardest thing when you break up with a guy is believing anyone else will feel like that about you again, but as stupid as it is, it's normal. Don't give yourself a hard time, we all like that security
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QisQ
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I've been single all through college and it eats me alive sometimes. You'll survive.
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"Life is a beautiful struggle." - Talib Kwali
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ChandraMoon
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I sympathize. It's tough. Best of luck, and know that so many people are going through what you are. It's a good time for you to learn how to be your own person and not just part of a couple, which will make your next relationship even better because you'll be able to love him without entirely depending on him to define who you are.
Easier said than done. But since you can verbalize it like this, I can tell you're strong and you'll be ok.
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happyhawaiian
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i completely sympathize, i am literally in a very similar situation, but i figure i need to figure out how to be happy and feel good on my own without anyone first, you know? this is probably a good time in your life to be independent, grow as a person and figure things out for yourself. It's harder to do this when you are tied down, it affects your decision making. Now you can focus on you and becoming the person you want to be. I know i sound like a mother but having a boyfriend really is very distracting. Be strong!
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cha chi
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There shouldnt be an empty spot, becuase you were born whole. You make yourself whole, not someone else. You have to be happy with yourself, confident and happy with life, as an individual. I know how you feel, personally, and sometimes i feel th at way too and hate being alone. But also, you have the time to get to know you and spent lots of time with your friends and family and figuring out YOUR future, your career, and your life. Live for you and work at your goals and not for someone else. You will get through it. Speak to a counselor if your feeling down, it helps - i did it.
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"I have a boner, and your gonna help me fix it" - Ben W
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