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( PinkLotus )
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Soo....
I have known this girl since 9th grade. We are both in college now.
Since I have known her, she has been jealous kind of. We were both part of a college prep group that takes over your English class all 4 years of High School. So basically, everyone in my English class I knew for four years including her.
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In Junior Year, I was taken from my home and put in foster care. It was very dramatic. I mean the dean of students pulled me out of my English class, which we share together. I was gone for a week while I was placed in a group home. I developed depression and cut myself daily. Now, no one really knew until towards of it. And my class, trying to be supportive, were very nice and encouraged me a lot.
When she got whiff of this, a week later she stood up in class with a box cutter and cut her hand... her hand not wrist.
Same year, since I was in all honors, and kept a good GPA, my foster parents bought me a car. I gave her and my best friend a ride home everyday after school. It was a 2000 Dodge. A month later, she got a car. She still has it, its a 1990 Honda. When she found out my fiancee bought me a 2006 Honda Civic Sport Edition, she nearly flipped her lid.
Now, I am engaged to be married. I am head over heels in love. And now, she proposed to her 16 year old boyfriend.
She is annoying me so much. Every chance she gets she tries to get me to be jealous of her. But I am completely content with my life. I am engaged to my wonderful fiancee who is in law enforcement.
This week she is mad because she found out that I lost weight, I am a size 3 so I can wear a bikini for the summer. So to get attention and show me up, she is anorexic. I feel guilty now, what if she dies?!
I just don't what to do. I don't call her, but she calls me all the time to tell me that she got an "A" here, and "A" there. Or anything to try to get me jealous. But when I don't I notice she gets mad, and doesn't talk to me for a week. I don't care. But I am not sure how to tell her I know her actions are to get me to be jealous and get her to stop.
I mean, she can be nice, she is a nice person. And I would like to be friends with her.... so what should I do?
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Ethryx
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Maybe once she gets over the whole "trying to get you jealous" act, she will realize that you just want to be friends and want to keep it that way for as long as you guys can.
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9:59 pm on May 5, 2008 | Joined Jan. 2007 | 197 Days Active
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( PinkLotus )
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I have tried everything. I am very modest around her, to make her feel better. I want to be friends but its been nearly 5 years of this. I am not sure if it will end.
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shesallithinkabout
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thats tough cuz if you just ask her about it she may resent you and harbour an even greater jealous
try failing see what happens...lol jk
but seriously id just try to support her and encourage her and maybe she will see that she doesnt need to compete
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Hyacinth
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Quote: from PinkLotus at 3:05 pm on May 6, 2008
 Quote: from Hyacinth at 10:18 pm on May 5, 2008
Well it seems she can't get over you being better than her. I mean shit, you got a 2006 honda civic excellent grades, excellent fiancee... shit, I am jealous too. Problem is, she probably feels like crap because you have everything she wants to have. You being modest probably only makes it worse, because it makes you look like you could do better, when she can't even do as good as you. 
Then what should I do?
I don't want to come off as a show off or ostentatious.... I really don't...
You can't do anything. Sit down with her, and tell her that life shouldn't be a competition. If there is anything that she is better than you at (that is worth mentioning), mention it. Tell her this jealous rivalry is silly and pointless. Beyond doing the above you really cannot do a whole lot. The problem lies with your friend, not with you.
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( PinkLotus )
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So instead of being modest... what should I do?
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etali
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There must be something that you aren't happy with - do you like your hair color? Do you wish you had whiter teeth? Complain about something and see if she is supportive towards you, maybe? Some people just are the jealous type - heck, I'm often secretly jealous, but I don't try to one-up people because I know it seems hollow and stupid, but I can see where your friend is coming from. If she's nice most of the time, then I'd just try to accept that it's just how she is, but if the friendship is becoming that taxing (i wouldn't fancy someone ringing me, showing off for a bit, then going off in a huff every few weeks), then I'd tell her outright to stop, and if she doesn't just move on - you'll make plenty new friends as life goes on, and the ones that are so stressful just aren't worth it, really.
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u know she might not be jealous of a 2006 Honda Civic Sport Edition she might be jealous cause of how good u r of being her friend and she wishs she could be that good of a friend.
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