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Why am I like invisible?
Replies: 10Last Post May 5 9:08pm by DarkEyes
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I have a therapist / counselor I talk to once a month and she told me to start being more spontaneous and talking to people more often. I sat today at a table with a group of people I'm acquainted with in class and they just carry on with their conversation as if I didn't exist.

This has happened to me many times before. These people know me but they ignore me.

What are some good ways to usually "be in a conversation" without butting in or seeming too needy?


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you just have to go for it, try to be as natural as possible. don't expect a lot of encouragement, in fact, don't expect anything. just talk as if you didn't care about the reactions.

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you can start a conversation of your own, involving a topic everyone would be interested in, or be spontaneous

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Sometimes it's hard for people to be outgoing. You have to just take a chance and add into the conversation whenever there's something you'd like to say.
It's better to hang out with people who share your interests if you're shy/quiet because it's easier to think of things to say.

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Give your opinion, Speak your mind =D

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RubberTrees


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Well, you could first try starting one on one - like when you're sitting in class, just randomly start talking to the person.  Maybe talk about homework first and then you could venture off into music or whatever.
You can try doing this in every class.

People probably don't talk to you because they think you're one of those people who seem to want to be alone.
I usually try talking to many people but leave the quiet one's alone because they usually look like they don't want to be talking to me when they hardly respond..  

Post edited at 8:51 pm on May 5, 2008 by RubberTrees

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just but in.. after awhile people will stop trying to talk over you adn respect your opinion

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start the conversation yourself instead of jumping into someone else's so that way u have a better chance at having more to say about the topic

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In my opinion you should try to find a group of people that you share a common interest with and that you can talk alot about the subject. If  you love sports try finding some people that like sports and your opinion may be valid to him, or video games or w.e.

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Yeah I am pretty quiet and I usually don't talk to people. But I want to talk to people since the counselour told me its unhealthy if I don't. I mean shoot I really tried to talk to people and they just give me a one word answer and then carry on their own conversation and I'm left in the side. It feels really awkward.



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Quote: from tilt34 at 8:57 pm on May 5, 2008

Yeah I am pretty quiet and I usually don't talk to people. But I want to talk to people since the counselour told me its unhealthy if I don't. I mean shoot I really tried to talk to people and they just give me a one word answer and then carry on their own conversation and I'm left in the side. It feels really awkward.

 



You can't expect them to respond to anything that they don't know much about. It's not that they are trying to reject you, they probably just want to talk about something else that they know more about.

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