---

That is really horrible though. I know she is going through alot at the moment and she needs me to be there for her not to be distance. I would never upset her, You dont leave children when they cry. Im not lazy!

---

Make her veggie burgers, invest in a good smoothie maker, and make her some fruit smoothies. Try carrot and parsnip chips, get low fat crisps if she has any; don't let her have them often as they contain salt, sugar, even if they are low fat. Get oven chips when she has them; but only let her have them as a treat. Buy fruit, let her get her 5-a-day. Fresh fruit drinks, no fizzy pop; it rots and stains teeth and isn't good for anyone, never mind kids.

The thing is, you do love her and you can clearly see, but you need to love her with tough love, too. You can't keep letting her twist you around her little finger, if she cries, explain to her and you tell her what to do, what's happening. If she doesn't eat her food, then don't let her eat her food, (that sounds mean, it's not), she will start to eat what she's given. She has to learn that when she's gonna protest (she probably will) you're not gonna give in and give her junk. When you're about to, think of all that fat, and grease in the food she likes, and how it's damaging her body and her health. You're the mother, she's the daughter, YOU are in control of her, she's not in control of you.

She won't like the change, but she will get used to it if you keep it up. It will pull at your heartstrings when she cries, begs, has tantrums, and then you'll just think "I'm just going to give it her, it's easier." Don't  

It's not going to be easier when she keeps putting on weight, and then it's just going to get even harder when she grows up to take it off.

Has she got any school friends? Take them all out, get a couple of bats and a tennis ball; a football, a kite. If you have a dog - take it for walks with her, get her to throw the ball for the dog and play with it. Walk to the park, walk to the shop, walk to school. Does she have a bike? Let her out on it, go with her to make sure she's safe.  

If she has to have a treat, get her a Subway sandwich, maybe once a month. Home cook all her meals and don't eat junk in front of her, start out by clearing your cupboards of the biscuits, and crisps and fizzy pop. Get brown bread, not white, or Hovis Best of Both - She won't even know the difference of that.

But if you have other kids, you'll have to make them all eat the same, including you, it's not fair otherwise.

But you can't let her get away with it, it's not good. You need to use tough love and be firm, do not let her push you around and feel bad, no matter how many times she cries.

Check this out.

Post edited at 10:38 am on May 11, 2008 by Kerryx3

-------
Jordon. ♥