My boyfriend and I were talking about having a baby. We've been together for 6.5 years. We met in High School. We now live together.

Well, I've been wanting a baby for about a year now. And every time I bring it up, he comes out with a different response. First he is really excited and wants one, next he doesn't. Plus, he was actually the first one to come out with the idea. And now, I'm hooked on it.

I understand his point sometimes. He goes on about having a career started so he can support all of us as a family. But, I want one so bad. And he continuously plays with my head. First he wants to try, we try, I get my period, and then he does this huge speech, "Why now".

Like I said, I see his point. But I can't help these feelings, especially with him changing his mind.

Plus on top of that, his family is being a pain in the ass. They are budding in our business. They don't know how to fuck off and leave us alone. His mom hates me. Every time he goes down to visit, she gets in his head and he comes home and fights with me. She hates the fact we've made it this far.

I'm trying not to care about how his family think of me, cause it only matters what he thinks of me, but, they get to him sometimes. His sister always goes on about people getting into her personal life, and then there she goes trying to get between us. She constantly sends me notes yelling at me about stuff.

I don't know what the hell to do. Trying to ignore these feelings about having a baby and the constant degrading from his family is getting to me.

I feel empty, like I have nothing.

Once you get married and he has something to work with, then get started. However, I really do sympathize with your desire for a baby. That's something to be appreciated in today's world.

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Life sucks, get a helmet.

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To be honest, you really don't have anything. A flaky boyfriend from highschool that doesn't have a career, who you're not married to, and who has an antagonistic family. He should be the one standing up to them.

Once you get married and he has something to work with, then get started. However, I really do sympathize with your desire for a baby. That's something to be appreciated in today's world.

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much agreed

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*:.Megan.:*

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To be honest, you really don't have anything. A flaky boyfriend from highschool that doesn't have a career, who you're not married to, and who has an antagonistic family. He should be the one standing up to them.

Once you get married and he has something to work with, then get started. However, I really do sympathize with your desire for a baby. That's something to be appreciated in today's world.

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When he got out of High School his father tried to pull him into his buisness. Basically he worked when he wanted, so my boyfriend didn't make any money from it. He's parents are very overcontroling over him, but leave their daughter to go wild. Finally last year he had enough and moved out. (Packed up and left without telling them)

So, he's trying to get onto his feet. He is going to College in September. And marriage is something we both can easily wait for.

I agree about him standing up for me. His reason is that if he agrees, they shut up. I understand that, cause they literally don't stop until you agree, but I still think he should stand up against them, and for what he believes in.

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Quote: from Libertarian Samurai at 9:13 pm on May 8, 2008

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To be honest, you really don't have anything. A flaky boyfriend from highschool that doesn't have a career, who you're not married to, and who has an antagonistic family. He should be the one standing up to them.  

 Once you get married and he has something to work with, then get started. However, I really do sympathize with your desire for a baby. That's something to be appreciated in today's world.

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When he got out of High School his father tried to pull him into his buisness. Basically he worked when he wanted, so my boyfriend didn't make any money from it. He's parents are very overcontroling over him, but leave their daughter to go wild. Finally last year he had enough and moved out. (Packed up and left without telling them)

So, he's trying to get onto his feet. He is going to College in September. And marriage is something we both can easily wait for.  

I agree about him standing up for me. His reason is that if he agrees, they shut up. I understand that, cause they literally don't stop until you agree, but I still think he should stand up against them, and for what he believes in.

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I know what the controlling parents are like. My Grandpa was very, very controlled by his parents. He let them help him get started in life, and they just took over. They wanted keys to his house because they helped with the down payment. It continued until he stood up to them. They weren't on great terms after that, but he was happy and could live in peace.. Your boyfriend may well have to do the same.

It's good that he's going to school. He needs to do his best for you and your future family. Statistically, living together is not good for marriage survival rates, but it seems you're doing all you can.

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Life sucks, get a helmet.

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If possible, tell him to get join the military and do ROTC in college.
Not only will his tuition be paid, there will be a side income of maybe 2k-2.5k/month for food, paycheck, housing etc,

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We've talked about it, but it's not what he wants. He knows what he wants, and we have it planned out. He'll only owe like $10,000 altogether when he done. So, that's not bad. (Compared to what my brother already owes for his schooling!)