and all of a sudden he just wants me all the time. like the second i go to this house and we go in his room hell just pick me up and well start making out then he just puts me right on the bed and starts taking off my pants and thong.

like legit the SECOND we get in his room. and i mean hes great dont get me wrong ;] and i love his cock but .. i mean we dont even talk anymore.

even in when we're out if i bend over to do anything hell grab my ass and like dry hump me and then just go to his car so we can hook up in there. and it doesnt even have tinted windows for gods sake.

i mean i still want him i lovee what he does to me but i just want more control in the relationship.

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What do you mean? You want him to stop treating you like an object? Or you want him to stop fucking you all the time? Or what?

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i still want to fuck him. just not treat me like an object.
i mean i know were just fwbs but i am more than a vagina.

If you do not enjoy how quickly he rushes to sex then you need to step up and take the control, as he is most likely not simply going to hand it up. Very few people would think or say "hey baby, I love sex, but let's hold off on it for a minute" if they really just want to rush into sex. That's not to say that he doesn't like you as a person, or that he dislikes anything not relating to sex with you, but it's easy to get lost in the pleasure that comes with sex, and it happens to many couples.

Don't be afraid to say that you want to try other activities, to go outside, or anything else. Don't be afraid to turn him down if that's what you want for the moment. How much control you have depends on how much you take, not how much he gives.

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So when you're happy (Hurray!), or sad (Aw!),
Or frightened (Eeek!), or mad (Rats!)
An interjection starts a sentence right.

i think you would like more than just fucking

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i've been working on a piece that speaks of sex and desperationnnnn

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Friend with benefits =/= relationship.

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Friendship is a relationship. Enemies have a relationship. Relationship is a very encompassing word.

But regardless. If you want control you have to take it. If he wants to fuck and you just wanted to hang out, tell him you don't want to.

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News stand boy: Why?
Graham: Because God knows who you are.

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Nothing it is nothing.

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Regardless, you downplaying her "relationship" really doesn't help the question at-hand. Nothing or something, everyone deserves to be happy with what they have (or with what they don't have, as you seem to see it).

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So when you're happy (Hurray!), or sad (Aw!),
Or frightened (Eeek!), or mad (Rats!)
An interjection starts a sentence right.

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Nothing it is nothing.

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