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LMFAO!!!!

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Dude, not cool.

You should join my group orange ribbon awareness. I self injure too.

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You can have me scarred and alive or blemish free and dead.
Either way, I REFUSE to be ashamed of what I do.

Post edited at 6:28 pm on June 14, 2008 by californication

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Hei chavorale!
 Palo Mande!  

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Quote: from deadsilent at 6:25 pm on June 14, 2008

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LMFAO!!!!

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Dude, not cool.

 
 You should join my group orange ribbon awareness. I self injure too.

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Agreed.
People tend to cut for a number of different reasons.  Whether it be for "fun," or because they're depressed, it doesn't matter.
Being a self-harmer, I understand where you're coming from when saying this. I say it's pretty sad when people would rather belittle a self-harmer than help them.  

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I lost my virginity through my ear.

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But what if you didn't cut? Then you wouldn't have to worry about all that stuff. Seems logical enough.

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While I don't think that self-harmers should be ashamed, I do think that the idea of self-harm should be GREATLY looked down upon. Someone who uses self-harm shouldn't be disgraced just because of one's coping mechanisms, but one should know that the action isn't smart and isn't a way to be 'strong'.

The way you describe self-harmers is fairly disgusting. You suggest that they are some how valiant for hiding their wounds and their pain. In NO WAY is this true. People resort to forms of self-harm, like cutting, because they aren't strong enough to deal with their emotions on their own. There is no commitment in 'keeping up with your cuts'. Hiding a potentially fatal secret is far from deserving glory.

Certainly, self-harmers deal with lots of things, which is sad. But still.

And I'm not an ignorant by-standard who is looking on to the sickness of self-harm. I've dealt with it for a long time.

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Un Día Llegara

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But what if you didn't cut? Then you wouldn't have to worry about all that stuff. Seems logical enough.

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Its not that easy.

When you cut, it gives you a slight high. It makes you feel better. It releases something like adrenaline into your system, and you do actually feel better.

To me, as I watch the blood drip, I do become numb. For that little bit, my pain is real, I can see it. I can feel it. When you manifest emotional pain as physical pain, you get a temporary feeling of security. That everything can and will heal, just like that cut, or burn.

When thats the only thing that you have found that can make you feel like that, its very hard to give it up. Ive been going through therapy, and anti-depresents, and all sorts of other crazy things the past ten years, but the only thing that has ever made me feel better is self harm. Ever since I was little. It started with me biting and scratching myself, and later evolved.

I know that sounds pretty bad, and Ill admit, it is. Im not condoing self harm, but I deffinately know what its like. I know that its hard to stop.

And I agree with the OP. It takes guts. Can you honestly say you could pick up a knife, and cut yourself to the point you need stitches? Could you do that and fight the urge to complain about it, to get it treated, to show it to people, to hide it. To bury it.

At least twice Ive had to go to the doctors office later on, because a cut has gotten infected, and both times they told me I should have gotten stitches, but thats the thing. I dont want people to know about it.

Some self harmers do it for the attention. I cant stand that. Thats not really right. Its not really a relief, your just an attention whore. On the exact opposite, I fight to keep mine hidden, as do many other self harmers. From cutting to obscure places such as my foot and thigh, to wearing sweatshirts for weeks on end.  

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Heaven has a beer volcano and stripper factory
Hell is the same, but the beer is stale and the strippers have STDs

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Nobody should look down on self-harmers, that is true. But also nobody should embrace it. It isnt a good thing. Some people do use it as a cry for attention but they obviously need help too. There are many other ways of dealing with life's problems. Keeping busy is one of them. Take up a sport,get a job, find a new hobby, make more friends. The scars will embaress you once you realize what you're doing isnt healthy. I was a cutter for over 4 years and it took a lot of support from friends and inner strength to stop cutting. Its possible. Never give up hope.

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