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It's time to quit...
But why do I feel so guilty?
Replies: 10Last Post June 17, 2008 3:53am by Mz strawberry2k4
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I've been working at my job for two years now (the two year anniversary will be Friday; my starting date was 6/6/06) and I'm attached to it in a strange obligatory way that pisses me off.

I wish I could just quit without feeling bad about it.

The thing is, my management treats me like pure shit most of the time. They attack me about meeting my sales goals, and they are very degrading. One time the Human Resources/Sales Manager came up to me and said, "You guys are doing rotten today."

Is that acceptable for a Human Resources Manager?

My Store Manager took me back to his office the other day and was just being a dick. At our store, we are required to open a certain amount of store charges with customers. This is nearly impossible for me in the department that I work in, as I see few customers and most of them already have charges anyway, and those who don't do NOT want one. Anyway, he told me that if I don't start taking opening store charges seriously, I should start looking for a new job now.

Why the fuck would my store manager tell me that? I'm one of his very most valuable employees who has been in my department the longest. I am the trainer for my area and also have a management position. I've called in sick twice the entire time I've been here, and I am a damn good worker.

We don't receive constructive criticism. We receive insults.

Another thing. I hardly ever get weekends off compared to other employees. In the last 32 weekends, I have gotten three full weekends off. In the last 11 weekends for a newer associate, she has gotten SIX full weekends off. How fucked up is that? Also, my hours have been cut (along with everyone else in the company) so my paychecks have been about $150-$200 less every two weeks. That's a lot when you're living by yourself AND going to college and paying for everything on your own.

My question is, why the fuck do I feel guilty about finding a new job and leaving them? Just thinking about putting in my  two weeks notice makes my stomach ache. I have no idea why I should feel the least bit bad about leaving the shithole that I work in, but I do.

Grrrr. :(



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You'll find work elsewhere!


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i understand, but if you find something better, wats so wrong?

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I know I will. :) I'm going to a job fair tomorrow, and traveling to three different nearby towns to pick up applications. That's not the problem, though. The problem is that I feel terribly guilty finding a new job.

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I totally understand. I was at a job that was awful too and I felt so guilty about quitting and it made me miserable. I don't really have any good advice about it other than just do it and try not to think too much about it and you will feel so much better once you are out of this job.

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Quote: from blessedbeaut8 at 12:28 pm on June 4, 2008

i understand, but if you find something better, wats so wrong?

I feel like I have an obligation to my job. Like I'm letting them down. I am, after all, planning on getting a new job and leaving right before a major event (in two months) that I will be in charge of. It will be impossible for them to hire someone new to replace me that will be able to know what the fuck they are doing.

Also, only three people work in my specific area and one other girl just quit. The other girl might be going to jail soon (long story) so I'll probably be leaving them bare.

But I really shouldn't have to worry about that, should I?

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Probably because you know your so good they need you and want you in.

They insult you to toughen you.

They keep you in because you make the most money.

So heres my proposition. Get your  boss in his office and just tell him everything. Shout if needs be.

If he says yes moe pay and more weekends off say Yay. thankyou.

If he says. O M G. your fired. Say thats too bad. I  quit anyway.

Hence. you win.

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Quote: from girlygrl at 12:30 pm on June 4, 2008

I totally understand. I was at a job that was awful too and I felt so guilty about quitting and it made me miserable. I don't really have any good advice about it other than just do it and try not to think too much about it and you will feel so much better once you are out of this job.

Thank you. :) I guess that's all I can do...think about the future and how much happier (hopefully) I will be with something else.

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Quote: from WindLord at 12:31 pm on June 4, 2008

Probably because you know your so good they need you and want you in.

They insult you to toughen you.

They keep you in because you make the most money.

So heres my proposition. Get your boss in his office and just tell him everything. Shout if needs be.

If he says yes moe pay and more weekends off say Yay. thankyou.

If he says. O M G. your fired. Say thats too bad. I quit anyway.

Hence. you win.


Talking to him is certainly not a bad idea because I actually have a business meeting with him today at 2:00.

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You might feel guilty because at the same time, your company and its employees have given you positive experience and working so long there, you feel a sort of commitment. I get like that too. When it comes down to it though, you gotta do what's best for yourself.

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Mz strawberry2k4


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Before u had that talk to him if u didnt already make sure u have another job in mind. You dont want to get fired and be left with nothing

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