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If you are like me, you are sick of seeing the same posts over and over again. I think it is about time this forum catches up with all the rest and contains a FAQ thread. I have took the initiative of looking at past threads, doing research around the internet, and using my own personal knowledge to create this thread. Click on the below links to jump right to each question:

What's the average weight and height of a person?

Am I Fat?

How can I lose weight?

Where can I view comprehensive Eating Disorder Information?

I have an eating disorder, what should I do?

What are some good weight loss/muscle building pills?

How can I get maximum performance from my workout?

I have acne how can I get rid of it?

I haven't had my period yet, should I be worried?

I am having really bad cramps, how can I get rid of them?

My penis is small, will it grow anymore, and what is the average length?

What are some popular hair removal techniques?

How can I make an At-Home Facial Mask?

Where can I find out what exactly is wrong with me, given the symptoms that I have?

What is aloe vera?

If you would like any tips added or would like any of your questions answered please don't hesitate to message any of the THH&F mods (roflfuckyou, polio, katyduck).

(If no moderators are available, you can message any online support leader)

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Am I fat?

It is useless to make a message asking am I fat and giving us your weight and age.  Just because your weight is high doesn't mean you are fat, your muscle mass and height have a large part to do with whether or not you are overweight.  The best way you can tell whether or not you are over weight is buy figuring out the percentage of fat you have.  Here is the percentage of fat that are you are recommended to have:
After you have figured out your percent of body fat click here to find out how much weight you should lose.

*Of course the above isn't 100% accurate, but its as accurate as you will get if measuring on your own.  This is only used to give you an approximate idea of your body fat*

Another trick you can use is to find your Body Mass Index (BMI).

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How can I lose weight?

Diets aren't always healthy, especially if you don't follow exactly what they say.  I have experience with many diets that have and haven't worked for me.  Keep in mind that with every diet you need plenty of exercise, about 20-30 minutes of jogging 3 times a week should be minimum.  Here are a few of the more popular diets:

Weight Watchers
Weight watchers is one of the most popular diets out there.  It goes by a point system, the amount of points you are allowed to have, are determined by your height and weight.  The points symbolize the intake of calories, fat, and fiber.  It helped me a lot with losing weight but it is very difficult to keep on because you have to know the exact points in every food that you eat.  As a teenager it is practically impossible to figure out the exact nutrition facts in every food, so after time you may go off of it.  My problem was when I got off of it I ended up gaining all the weight that I lost... in half the time.

Atkins Diet
I am on this right now and it is working great for me.  Atkins revolves around the idea that if you eat low carbs, then fat, cholesterol, blood sugar, etc, won't affect you.  The Atkins diet will only allow you to eat a certain amount of carbs.  Most of these carbs will come from veggies and a little from fruit (mostly berries).  Best of all you don't have to count calories and fat!  I have been on this diet for less than a month and have already lost over 10 pounds.  Many people will argue that this diet is unhealthy because of all the meat you have to eat.  Atkins says that cholesterol and fat doesn't work the same way when you don't add carbs to your diet, I can give you all the medical mumbo jumbo but that would serve no purpose except confusing me.  One thing that I have to stress is *if you have kidney problems do NOT follow this diet*.  Another thing you have to keep in mind when following this diet, is that Atkins is a life long commitment.  If you do decide to go off it, you have to do it very subtly, don't just eat a bowl of pasta!  If you go straight from Atkins to how you were eating before, the weight is going to pile on very quickly.

Your Everyday Diet
There is no specific name to the diet because its the norm, you eat less and exercise more.  It is what most people do and have success by doing it.  I can't say it doesn't work, because scientifically it should.  I guess the only problems you come across are that it takes a long time to see a difference, it is strict, and you can't eat what you want.  The diets above may not be right for you, and if they aren't you can't go wrong with the "everyday diet".  Here are some other tips that I have searched around for:
-Cut out junk food, soda, juice, white bread, and limit your carb intake (pasta, rice, etc.)
-Eat whole grains in place of processed breads.
-No fried food of any kind.
-Eat lots of lean meats(chicken breast, fish, lean beef, etc.)
-Drink LOTS of water. It is recommended to drink 8 glasses of water a day.
-Eat six small meals throughout the day instead of three large ones.

RyanL's Tips
To lose weight you need to BURN more calories then you EAT. You do not necessarily need to exercise regularly to accomplish this, since your body burns calories all day. Your weight loss will be much more rapid, and you can eat more, if you do find time to slip in some regular cardiovascular exercise.

So to start out you want to try to drop your caloric intake by 400-500 calories. This will most likely get you burning more then you eat… unless you are rapidly gaining weight right now, which means you are taking in a LOT more then you burn. If this is the case you need to get more drastic, but for now 400-500 fewer calories per day should do.

How do you do that? It is actually quite simple, but I would need to know your currently diet to make it very precise. I will tell you some pretty easy and common ways to cut 500 calories a day out.


SODA - just 3 12oz regular sodas per day has about 450 calories You can drink diet though, especially if you need caffeine. I HATE diet, but believe me I got used to it. I still don't like it but the only reason I really need to drink soda is for caffeine.

MAYO - People think eating sandwiches is healthy, not if you have mayo on them. I know a lot of people can't handle this, but use good mustard instead. You will be surprised; you can really live without mayo. You may need to give up things like Tuna Salad, Chicken Salad, and Potato Salad completely if you cannot handle these without the mayo. BUT, low fat mayo in moderation is acceptable.

CHIPS - One exception, feel free to eat anything BAKED. I love baked lays. They make baked ruffles and there are baked tortilla chips. Never eat Cheetos, Doritos, Fritos, potato chips, etc. These are extremely high in calories and saturated fat.

FRENCH FRIES - anything FRIED. Sorry guys, you just gotta live without.

ICE CREAM - You can eat non-fat frozen yogurt or LOW fat ice cream, but for reasons I will discuss below its not a good idea either.

Donuts, Bagels, Candy, Pastries (no cookies!) - These things go straight to fat in your body.

JUICE and most FRUIT - Juice is death!!! FRUIT is shit. Its all Fructose, which is a type of sugar, and WILL cause you to store fat. Now don't take this as never eat any fruits, fruits such as blueberries, strawberries, and blackberries with high fiber content and low GI is ok. Fruit is great if you are living a "healthy" lifestyle, but for losing FAT it will hinder your progress.

SALAD DRESSINGS & OIL - Go for NON-FAT dressing.  They still taste good especially honey mustard and ranch. One serving of dressing has 100+ calories!

CHEESE - unless you can find non-fat, skip it. You can live without it.

Ok so what to make sure you ARE eating:

PROTEIN: protein should be a BIG part of your diet. Protein fills you up, but has half the calories as fat. Protein also does not cause your body to store fat, but carbs do. I will explain later.

WATER: This is VERY important for a few reasons. Drink it all day long, constantly, force yourself too even when you are not thirsty. There are techniques to do this, fill a glass and drink it all at once. Then fill the glass again to take with you or whatever. Why water. Well first off you need a ton of water for your body to burn fat. It will increase you metabolism and help you burn burn burn. But here is the reason why I think its great, pounding a glass of water can trick your body into thinking it is not hungry.  It is great for when you get late night cravings, slam some water and go to bed.  In the morning you wake up starving.  Before breakfast drink a ton of water and you wont eat as much. Use it to fill you up.

VEGGIES: Vegetables fill you up, but have little or no calories. You can use them as snacks and fillers. I prefer carrots. They are crunchy like chips, have a little taste, and really have no calories.
So what good stuff can you eat though?

SNACKS: try nuts or peanut butter. Nuts are super high in fat, but the oils you get from it are good and essential to the body. Try a trail mix, even one with some chocolate in it. It is far better than candy.

STEAK, CHICKEN, & TURKEY: who doesn't love a great steak, and how many different ways can you eat chicken? Tons! For steaks go for New York, or Sirloin.  Top and bottom round is good too but tough. NEVER EVER eat Rib Eye or Filet Mignon they are LOADED with fat.  London Broil and Tri Tip is not bad either.

FAST FOOD: yes you can eat fast food, you just have to be smart about it. Try to get meals that have chicken. Cut out the french fries and mayo and you will be left with a semi-decent fast food meal. Fast food is NOT ideal by any means but for someone who is busy it is inevitable at times.

PROTEIN BARS: there are TONS on the market now. Many taste really good, some taste like a candy bar. I like Detour bars.. and they have 32g of protein each! Cliff bars are not bad either if you find a flavor you like.

Yogurt! Get non-fat, there are tons of flavors out there to play with.

You really have to get yourself in a mode of thinking "Is what I am eating now going to be good for me or bad for me?" Everything you put into your body should have a purpose, don't just eat because it tastes good.

Also, some fat is ok.. don't sweat it. The reason why you have to concentrate on looking to reduce it is because people normally eat more fat then they should, so really key in on that and look for ways to eliminate it. To compensate beef up your protein intake.

So why no juice? no bagels? no carbs?
This is why everyone says carbs are bad: It really isn't that CARBS are bad.. it is that sugar is bad.. and carbs have tons of sugars in them. Complex carbs are good. whole grain bread, etc, but don't go overboard.

So why is sugar bad? To process sugar your body releases insulin, and insulin promotes fat storage! You ultimately want to keep your insulin levels low low low. And very consistent and even.. when you get an insulin "spike" your body puts fat on, in men it puts it around the waste. So this is why you need to avoid sugar like the plague!

So I hope this does not sound bad or depressing, it really isn't. You do not need to starve, you do not need to give up everything that is good in life

The REALLY good news is that you do not need to live like this forever. If you follow everything above you will be adhering to a fairly strict diet. Use it to drop weight.. say for 2, 3, 4 maybe even 6 months. Once you get to where you want you can increase you calories slightly.. start adding in a dessert here and there.. treating yourself more. I stayed on the diet above for 3 months or so, now I eat much more liberally.

The number one piece of advice to take from this is: Be conscious of what you are eating at all times and its effect on your body!

Anyone will self control can diet themselves. People tend to use weight watchers and things like that because they need a support group, they are not strong willed enough to suck it up and do it for themselves. I am sure if you set a goal you will have no problem meeting it.

I know you are busy with work, but throw in a basketball game at a gym every few days.. or a short job... a ride on a stationary bike.. something to burn a few hundred extra calories here and there. The more you exercise, the more you can eat!

DO NOT weigh yourself regularly. Scales are a bad indicator of FAT loss. Measuring yourself every 2-4 weeks gives you a way better indication if you are lossing inches or not. Start today, find out where you are at. Then track your progress. Your own progress will be self motivating.

This link will also teach you about how much of each food you are supposed to eat!

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I have an eating disorder, what should I do?

First, I have to tell you, you are not the only one.  Many people have eating disorders all around the world, keep that in mind.  I can't stress this enough, EAT! If you have an ED because you think that you will lose weight quicker and look better, you couldn't be more wrong.  By not eating, your metabolism is slowing down making it harder for you to lose weight.  You are screwing around with your body which will follow you throughout your life, even after you stop.  If you are truly addicted to having an ED, you should seek professional help.  I go to a shrink, so I know how you are scared to go, but don't be.  They are here to help you and make you feel better about your life.  Also don't forget about your friends and family, they are the people who care about you so much and truly do think you are beautiful.

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What are some good weight loss/muscle building pills?

I am telling you right now DO NOT take weight loss or muscle building pills.  They are responsible for some pretty messed up stuff.  Some of the pills will speed up your metabolism so such that you will just pass out, others can drain your body of most of the water you have.  If you ever come across a diet pill bottle that says something along the line of "doctor approved", or "completely healthy", they are lying to you.  If you really want to lose weight or gain muscle, eat right and exercise!  Click here for more information.

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How can I get maximum performance from my workout?

-Muscles won't show up if you have fat covering it, weight lifting is not a substitute for losing weight.
-When exercising be sure that you eat a lot of protein, it keeps you going and actually aids you in developing muscle.
-Try to do cardio in the morning, it is easier to lose weight and look great when you exercise before you eat.
-Don't exercise the same muscle consecutive days, you can hurt it easily.
-Be consistent, consistency is key!

I don't know much about actual weight lifting so if you have questions about that, I recommend that you contact either RyanL or Froehler.

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I have acne how can I get rid of it?

If you have the money, I recommend you going to the dermatologist.  They will prescribe the right drug for you.  If you want some over the counter drugs then you will have to do some tests.  Everybody is different as is their skin.  I can tell you some creams and lotions to put on, but remember there is a different answer for every person.  Also just some info, eating fats and chocolate does NOT effect acne.  It is just some myth that has been passed around.  So here are some popular creams:
-Clean & Clear
Also here is a website that may be of use to you: [url][/url]

Here are some tips from lostwitness:
** Note **[/b] Please scroll through this topic as I only post the basics in this first post, and you will find alot more information in the other posts in this topic.

With hundreds of Acne posts - we finaly need a little 'How To' to get rid of the problem. Next time you receive a question similar to this just redirect them to this simple topic...

Ok so now we assume you have acne, you need to decide how serious it is and how it is bothering you and your life in order to find the appropriate steps for YOU.

Put yourself in one of these categories:

(A) Very Little
If you only get a couple of pimples here and there on rare occasions

(B) Little
If you get pimples fairly occasionaly, but it's still not too bad and it goes away on and off.

(C) Mild
You have acne, but its fairly a small amount and only in small places

(D) Medium
You have acne all over, it's bothering you and you really need to get rid of it to get your confidence up - it's still not extremely serious, but you feel you cant deal with it any longer, and it might even be on your body areas.

(E) Serious
You have alot of acne, your sick of it, it's cystic acne and you don't know what to do, you may even have alot of body acne making you very self concious.

Now that you have concluded on what you need to deal with scroll below to the correct section.


(A) Very Little  

Consider yourself extremely lucky, if it isn't even bothering your life too much just wait for it to stop coming at all by age, but if you want some 'quick' methods to get them to go away here you go..

Method 1:
Your going somewhere special in an hour, and you have got a pimple just that day - darn! There are ways to get rid of it though - quickly.
It's a good idea to have a 5% "Benzoyl Peroxide" cream at home (you can get it non-prescription at any pharmacy) and just apply a whole bunch to that spot and let it dry it up, and by the time your ready it should be dried up and hardly noticeable, then just apply some moisturizer and/or makeup and BAM, not there.

Method 2: Pop it! I know, i know - you heard it everywhere - popping causes scarring.. but not if you do it right and it's only every once in awhile in 'emergencys'.

1. Take a warm shower or bath to soften your skin.  
2. Wash your face and remove all makeup.  
3. Wash your hands to prevent spreading germs and infecting the pimple.  
4. Sterilize a needle by running it through a flame (a dirty needle will cause an infection and maybe a bigger pimple).  
5.Gently prick the tip of the pimple with the needle.  
6.Take a clean tissue or piece of toilet paper and wrap it around your index fingers.  
7.Gently apply pressure to the sides of the pimple to ease out the pus. Stop when blood or clear fluid comes out.  

You dont have too much to worry about, to prevent future breakouts just use a good daily facial cleanser, toner, and moisturizer and use the emergency steps above if needed.

(B) Little  
Please review the steps above, as your acne is very similar, we will just add one more step.

Step 1  Buy organic carrots and cellery, put them through a juicer and drink a cup of it daily - disgusting, yes - but it will do wonders for your skin which will speed up the process of getting rid of your acne.

Your acne could simply be worse from stress, poor diet, and poor cleansing habbits.

Try going for a walk daily out on the sun, cleanse, tone, and moisturize in the morning and at night. And try eating a healthier diet. Some very light acne creams could also come usefull.


(C) Mild  

Step 1
Try proactive - I'll admit right here, the proactive cream is nothing but an expencive bottle of benzoyl peroxide.. but the cleanser, mask, toner, and moisturizer that come with it are quite good and together will rid you of your acne.

If you can't afford it go to your local pharmacy and purchase 2.5% - 5% benzoyl peroxide and put it on the affected area in the morning and evening - dont forget cleansing and use an oil free moiturizer also.

Step 2
Read all the steps above for very little and little acne, as they will all be very helpful.

Step 3
Benzoyl peroxide not working or are you allergic to it? salicylic acid is also an effective treatment.

Step 4
Buy organic carrots and cellery, put them through a juicer and drink a cup of it daily - disgusting, yes - but it will do wonders for your skin which will speed up the process of getting rid of your acne.

The above steps should work, if not go to your doctor and he can prescribe you a prescription that can quickly remove that small amount of acne thats bringing you hell - if not, read on..

(D) Medium  

To be quite honest, it's the same as mild just in more spots - read above.

A dermatologist can also be very helpful to you.

Read on...

(E) Serious  

Ok your acne is serious, face it - you need a whole different plan and a whole new system to fight it off. All of the above steps are helpful but you need even more tips..

Step 1
Acne getaway is an AWESOME product that will heal your skin naturaly, it's an award winning chinese acne product you can order from anywhere at
That alone will not heal it, but it will do a fair amount of work..

Step 2
yep, you heard me, benzoyl peroxide again - it's one of the best acne 'cures' - try getting a prescription benzoyl peroxide acne cream, along with a great cleanser, and moisturizer.

Step 3
Take a hot bath up to 2 times a day, it will open up your pores and it will speed up the process.

Also SWEAT - go to a sauna, run, anything - it works great and emidietly cleanse your face after.

Step 4
You simply need a dermatologist, if all else fails get on to ACCUTANE - it is one of the most effective medications, and it is worth the side effects that are possible.



Quick Helpful tips for all acne types

Also rated out of 100 on how helpful they are GENERALY speaking alone.  

1) Benzoyl Peroxide (proactive,GP gel,etc.) - 85/100  
2) Acutane - 92/100  
3) Herbal Applications (Vitamin E, Aloe Vera etc.) - 40/100  
4) NATURAL Cleansers (tea tree oil etc.) - 22/100  
5) Man-Made Cleaners (neutrogina etc.) - 20/100  
6) Fruit & Vegtable rich diet - 15/100  
7) Excersize, sweat, then wash face. - 21/100  
8) Washing your face just with water - 6/100  
9) Prescription Creams - 75/100  
10) Antibiotics - 25/100  
11) Take fresh organic carrots and cellery and juice them and drink a cup daily - 40/100  
12) Clay Masks - 25/100  
13) Get some fresh air and go in the sun daily - 30/100  
14) Use oil free moisturizers - 30/100  
15) Wash your face twice a day - 40/100  
16) Dont be stressed, be happy - 16/100  
17) Go tanning - 5/100  
18) Take a nice warm bath and wash your hair daily (try putting up water purifiers because tap water is filled with clourine and flouride= BAD) - 35/100  
19) Keep your house, clothes, pillow, and blankets nice and clean. 10/100  
20) Wait it out (meaning wait till you get into your mid twenties) - 50/100  
21) Drink LOTS of pure water (NOT tap water) - 50/100
22) Birth Control Pills (for girls) - 68/100
23) Zinc And Vitamin E tablets - 40/100

Best & Easiest Combination

Best Easiest COMBINATION treatment

1) Benzoyl Peroxide (2.5% - 5%)
2) Fruit & Vegtable rich diet  
3) Excersize, sweat, then wash face.  
4) Clay Masks once a week  
5) Get some fresh air and go in the sun daily
6) Take a nice warm bath and wash your hair daily (try putting up water purifiers because tap water is filled with clourine and flouride= BAD)  
7) Keep your house, clothes, pillow, and blankets nice and clean.  
8) Drink LOTS of pure water

Coming soon...

Helpful Links
Information on acne, medications and treatment of scars. Includes a regiment for keeping skin clear.
A great amount of articles to help you with a whole lot of skin problems
Another fairly good website
This website I love, I prefer it from all of the ones above, it has some great straight forward tips..

Enjoy, and post helpful advice that worked for you for other members to see, and share positive
stories of yours - anything goes!

I will also every now and then reply posting several articles in this topic that could possibly help, it will not be added to this post.

Click here to discuss!

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I haven't had my period yet, should I be worried?

Don't be worried!  Every girl gets it at different times.  The usual is from about 10-16, but if you are 18 this doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you.  You have to have a certain amount of fat on you before getting your period so if you have an eating disorder, that could be the problem.  Also for the first few years there is no rhyme or reason to when you get your period.  Don't worry if you get two in one month or none in two months, its called puberty.

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I am having really bad cramps, how can I get rid of them?

If you get bad cramps like me, there are ways to take care of it.  I always take the Midol Cramp pills.  Don't get normal Midol if your problem is cramps alone because for me the normal Midol doesn't work nearly as well.  A good aid to medicine is a heat pad.  Heated pads will help a lot when you are waiting for those pills to kick in.

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My penis is small, will it grow anymore, and what is the average length?

I have seen this question too many times to count, and in pretty much every forum.  The average penis size is 4-6 inches when hard.  Also keep in mind guys, you are still going through puberty.  Puberty lasts usually from the ages of 12-18 for males but there are many exceptions.  For example, one of my favorite baseball players is still going through puberty, he grew 2 inches taller since last year and he's 20.  Back on the topic, if you are past the age of 18 and still unhappy with your penis size don't worry it may grow more or it may not.  Many of my friends like a guy who is under the majority then over it.  Its the motion of the ocean not the size of the boat!

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What are some popular hair removal techniques?


definition: Spreading heated wax over the area where you want hair removed, letting it dry, then pulling it off--hair, roots and all. The most common wax job is a bikini wax, especially in bathing suit season.
frequency: Lasts four to six weeks.
cost: If you do it at home, not much more than depilatories or bleaching, but having it done by a pro can cost almost the same as a haircut at a beauty salon. $$ - $$$$
pain: Sort of like ripping an adhesive bandage off a large area of skin. Some redness and irritation can follow.
pros: Removes hair for anywhere from two to six weeks.
cons: Ripping hair out by its roots with hot wax is very painful. Having it done professionally can be expensive. (Note: Also ask about "sugaring" and "threading," which operate on the same basic principle as waxing.)
tip: Some people like to use a loofah or other abrasive sponge between waxing sessions to avoid the development of "ingrown hairs."


definition: Pulling hair out one by one with a pair of tweezers.
frequency: As needed. Once you tweeze a hair, it's gone for a good month, but others grow nearby.
cost: If you do it yourself, nothing, once you've bought the tweezers. $
pain: Hurts for a second or two, especially in sensitive areas.
pros: You do it yourself (you control cost, the extent and whether or not to continue doing it).
cons: It can hurt at the time. It's only temporary.

Laser Hair Removal

definition: Invented in 1995, laser hair removal involves waxing first to remove hair, then rubbing a carbon-based lotion on the skin, then passing a laser over the area. Follicles are damaged, but not the skin. It is said to work best for people with light skin and dark hair.
frequency: Results are not permanent, but they are long-term.
cost: Very expensive. Price varies according to the area being treated, but most treatments will cost at least a thousand dollars. $$$$$$
pain: Less painful than electrolysis, except to the wallet.
pros: Near-permanent hair removal.
cons: Thousands of dollars so you won't grow hair. An inexperienced technician may burn your skin.

Depilatory (Nair)

definition: A cream or gel that you put on the area where you want hair removed. It burns, melts and otherwise damages the hair roots. Then you wash the stuff off along with your hair..
frequency: Lasts a couple of weeks to a month.
cost: Not prohibitive. Buy a reputable product at your drugstore. $ $
pain: Can burn or irritate sensitive areas. (Always follow the directions carefully, and use only on the recommended parts of your body.)
pros: You do it yourself and the result is a very smooth, hairless area that lasts longer than shaving.
cons: It can burn or leave sensitive skin red. It smells bad, even the stuff labeled "fresh scent." It can be a severe skin and eye irritant, and dark-haired users may have a visible "shadow" of hair under the skin.


definition: Chemically lightening the color of hair.
frequency: Depends on how fast your hair grows; usually lasts about a month. Repeat when hair becomes two-tone.
cost: Slightly more than depilatories. Buy a name brand. $ $
pain: Can cause some irritation in sensitive areas. Might be wise to test it on some less visible area first.
pros: Doesn't involve removing the hair, so you don't have to deal with how the hair will come back (no stubble, just dark).
cons: It is a chemical, so the skin may get irritated. It doesn't remove the hair, so if there is a lot of it, even if it is blond, it may be visible. May actually make hair more visible against dark skin.


definition: Using a razor to cut off hair right at the skin.
frequency: Daily to weekly depending on how fast the hair grows. (Can be done less often in winter).
cost: Just the cost of razors and cream or soap. $ $
pain: None, if you don't cut yourself. But can cause some irritation.
pros: You do it yourself anytime.
cons: Once you start shaving, hair comes back nubby and potentially thicker. Can cause ingrown hairs. Razor burns, shaving nicks and other razor mishaps can also cause discomfort.


definition: A qualified practitioner inserts a filament, or long thin needle, into each individual hair follicle and zaps it with an electric current. This is the only permanent, or nearly permanent, method of hair removal. It's used mostly for facial hair.
frequency: To remove, say, a mustache, usually requires weekly visits for a few months (because new hair grows all the time); then you can taper off with touch-up visits.
cost: Expensive. Probably several hundred dollars for a mustache; less if you're just having a few stray whiskers removed. $$$$$
pain: No picnic, but not as bad as a hard day at the dentist. Helps to take ibuprofen or another pain reliever about a half hour before. There are also creams that you can rub on your skin to temporarily numb the area.
pros: Hair removal is eventually permanent.
cons: Each session is very expensive, the treatment is fairly painful, and you need to find a good practitioner in order for the work to be permanent and to avoid slip-ups that can cause scarring.


definition: Using scissors to cut unwanted hair (like pubic hair that hangs out of your bathing suit).
frequency: As needed.
cost: Nothing, once you have the scissors. $
pain: None.
pros: You do it yourself, and it doesn't hurt.
cons: Though it reduces the length of the hair, it doesn't remove it from sight.

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Where can I view comprehensive Eating Disorder Information?

By Butterfly:

There are constantly questions being asked here about eating disorders and also a lot of wrong and potentially damaging information being thrown around. As eating disorders are a serious issue, I thought I’d take up the challenge to put together a comprehensive post that gives you all the basic details you may find helpful if you are concerned for your own health or that of a friend or family member.



Anorexia is categorised as excessive weight loss as the result of food intake restriction. This restriction is driven by the fear of being or becoming overweight despite the fact the sufferer may never have been overweight to begin with.
Anorexic’s tend to suffer from body dysmorphic disorder (see below) which means they will continue to see themselves as fat or overweight no matter how much weight they lose. Even when an anorexic may be able to see that they are painfully thin (which is uncommon but does happen) they may still “feel” fat and thus continue their behaviour.
Anorexia is first and foremost a mental illness that has severe physical symptoms. People often confuse Anorexia for extreme dieting, however Anorexia is rarely about being fat or wanting to lose weight and generally an indicator of much deeper issues.

Some common psychological issues that may be the cause of anorexia are:

The feeling of losing control over one’s life
Low self esteem
Post traumatic Stress disorder ( 40% of eating disorders victims are        believed to have been physically or sexually abused in the past)
The fear of growing up (wanting to keep the body as child like as possible)
Hatred of your body
Feelings of worthlessness

Medical professionals are beginning to realise that previous defining standards for anorexia are no longer accurate.  To be clinically diagnosed as anorexic a patient usually had to have lost 25% of their body weight and have lost their menstrual cycle if they are female.

There is a growing understanding that anorexia is a mental illness not a physical disease and should be treated accordingly. Thus, if you are worried about someone take them to a doctor to start treatment as soon as possible as the sooner they get help the better chance they have of making a full recovery.

You also may be interested to know that anorexia is not always about being underweight. People who are overweight or obese may appear to be “normal” or “fat” but they still may have lost extreme amounts of weight through restrictive eating behaviours in a short amount of time which means they are struggling with the mental illness of anorexia.

Warning Signs/Symptoms

-Noticeable weight loss
-Becoming withdrawn
-Excessive exercise
-Always being cold
-Muscle weakness
-Obsession with food, calories, recipes
-Excuses for not eating meals (ie. ate earlier, not feeling well)
-Unusual eating habits (ie. cutting food into tiny pieces, picking at food)
-Noticeable discomfort around food
-Complaining of being "too fat", even when thin
-Cooking for others, but not eating themselves
-Restricting food choices to only diet foods
-Guilt or shame about eating
-Depression, irritability, mood swings
-Evidence of vomiting, laxative abuse, diet pills or diuretics to control weight
-Irregular menstruation
-Amenorrhea(loss of menstruation)
-Wearing baggy clothes to hide weight loss
-Frequently checking weight on scale
-Fainting spells and dizziness
-Difficulty eating in public
-Very secretive about eating patterns
-Pale complexion (almost a pasty look)
-Perfectionistic attitude
-Feelings of self worth determined by what is or is not eaten
-No known physical illness that would explain weight loss

Physical Complications of Anorexia

-Fatigue and lack of energy
-Amenorrhea(loss of menstruation)
-Skin problems
-Dizziness and headaches
-Shortness of breath
-Irregular heartbeats
-Hair loss
-Stomach pains
-Decreased metabolic rate
-Edema (water retention)
-Lanugo(fine downy hair)
-Loss of bone mass
-Kidney and liver damage
-Electrolyte imbalances
-Cathartic colon(caused from laxative abuse)
-Low potassium (most common cause of nocturnal cardiac arrest)
-Cardiac arrest and death
-severe sensitivity to the cold
-fertility problems/infertility
-kidney dysfunction
-reduced metabolic rate leading to slow heart rate, low blood pressure, reduced body temperature and bluish coloured extremities
-muscle wasting or weakness
-constipation or diarrhoea
-hormonal irregularities
-oedema (retention of body fluid giving a ‘puffy’ appearance)
-easy bruising
-anaemia (iron deficiency)
-stunting of height/growth
-hypoglycaemia (low blood glucose levels) which can cause confusion, illogical thinking, coma, shakiness, irritability and fatigue
-reduced concentration, memory and thinking ability


Bulimia is categorised by a cycle of binge eating followed by a cycle of purging to remove unwanted calories from the body.
What is Binging?
Binging is something each bulimic defines for themselves. For some it will be 10,000 calories-eating entire loaves of bread, boxes of cereal, bags of chips, litres of ice cream in a sitting. For others, a  binge will  be considered a chocolate or even a piece of toast.

What is purging?

Purging can be any of the following
-Self induced vomiting
-Excessive consumption of diet pills
-Excessive consumption of laxatives
-Over-exercising/Obsessive exercising
-Excessive fasting/starvation

Bulimia is a problem that is just as serious as Anorexia and many sufferers exhibit symptoms of both anorexia and bulimia in a hybrid disorder termed “bulexia”.  Bulexia is someone who may restrict what they are eating but still purge or someone who may binge on 10, 000 calories and then not eat for 5 days.

Warning Signs

-Binge eating
-Secretive eating (food missing)
-Bathroom visits after eating
-Laxative, diet pill or diuretic abuse
-Weight fluctuations (usually with 10-15 lb range)
-Swollen glands
-Broken blood vessels
-Harsh exercise regimes
-Mood swings
-Severe self-criticism
-Self-worth determined by weight
-Fear of not being able to stop eating voluntarily
-Self-deprecating thoughts following eating
-Muscle weakness
-Tooth decay
-Irregular heartbeats
-Avoidance of restaurants, planned meals or social events
-Complains of sore throat
-Need for approval from others
-Substance abuse
-Ipecac abuse

Physical Complications

-Fatigue and lack of energy
-Amenorrhea(loss of menstruation) and irregular menstruation
-Constipation and diarrhea
-Shortness of breath
-Irregular heartbeats
-Tears of oesophagus
-Hair loss
-Stomach pain and bloating
-Erosion of teeth enamel
-Chronic sore throat
-Kidney and liver damage
-Parotid gland enlargement
-Electrolyte imbalances
-Cathartic colon (caused from laxative abuse)
-Odema (swelling of hands and feet)
-Low blood pressure
-Chest pains
-Development of peptic ulcers and pancreatitis (inflammation of the pancreas)
-Gastric dilation and rupture
-Abrasions on back of hands and knuckles
-Cardiac arrest and death

Binge Eating Disorder

Binge eating disorder is characterized by consuming large quantities of food in a very short period of time until the individual is uncomfortably full.  Binge eating disorder is much like bulimia except the individuals do not use any form of purging (i.e. vomiting, laxatives, fasting, etc.) following a binge.  
Individuals usually feel out of control during a binge episode, followed by feelings of guilt and shame.  Many individuals who suffer with binge eating disorder use food as a way to cope with or block out feelings and emotions they do not want to feel.  Individuals can also use food as a way to numb themselves, to cope with daily life stressors, to provide comfort to themselves or fill a void they feel within.

Warning Signs
-weight gain
-feeling out of control over eating
-low self-esteem
-experiences fluctuations in weight
-loss of sexual desire
-hiding food
-feelings of guilt and shame
-disgusted with self
-going on many different diets
-belief that life will be better if they lose weight
-secretive eating patterns
-avoidance of social situations where food will be present
-suicidal thoughts

Physical Complications/Side Effects

-menstrual irregularities
-high blood pressure
-high cholestrol
-decreased mobility
-shortness of breath
-heart disease
-liver and kidney problems
-cardiac arrest and/or death

Compulsive Over Eating Disorder

Compulsive overeating is characterized by uncontrollable eating and consequent weight gain. Compulsive overeaters use food as a way to cope with stress, emotional conflicts and daily problems. The food can block out feelings and emotions. Compulsive overeaters usually feel out of control and are aware their eating patterns are abnormal. Like bulimics, compulsive overeaters do recognize they have a problem.
Compulsive overeating usually starts in early childhood when eating patterns are formed. Most people who become compulsive eaters are people who never learned the proper way to deal with stressful situations and used food instead as a way of coping. Fat can also serve as a protective function for them, especially in people that have been victims of sexual abuse. They sometimes feel that being overweight will keep others at a distance and make them less attractive. Unlike anorexia and bulimia, there is a high proportion of male overeaters.
The more weight that is gained, the harder they try to diet and dieting is usually what leads to the next binge, which can be followed by feelings of powerlessness, guilt, shame and failure. Dieting and bingeing can go on forever if the emotional reasons for the bingeing is not dealt with.
In today's society, compulsive overeating is not yet taken seriously enough. Instead of being treated for the serious problem they have, they are instead directed to diet centers and health spas and called fat instead of recognised as being the sufferer of eating disorder. Like anorexia and bulimia, compulsive overeating is a serious problem and can result in death.

Warning Signs

-Binge eating
-Fear of not being able to stop eating voluntarily
-Self-deprecating thoughts following binges
-Withdrawing from activities because of embarrassment about weight
-Going on many different diets
-Eating little in public, while maintaining a high weight
-Believing they will be a better person when thin
-Feelings about self based on weight
-Social and professional failures attributed to weight
-Feeling tormented by eating habits
-Weight is focus of life

Physical/Medical Complications

-Weight gain
-Hypertension or fatigue
-Heart ailments
-Mobility problems
-Varicose veins
-Hiatal hernia
-Sleep depravation
-Toxemia during pregnancy
-High blood pressure
-Shortness of breath
-High Cholesterol levels
-Cardiac arrest and death


Not all Eating Disorders fit within the above categories which is why we have the term EDNOS.
An Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (EDNOS) is a term used when the sufferer clearly has disordered eating, yet does not meet some of the diagnostic criteria for any one specific condition. This is also sometimes known as an "atypical" eating disorder. For example, a person could show all of the psychological signs of anorexia and be losing weight, but is still menstruating and is not yet underweight for their height.
The term "Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified" comes about because a doctor, when making an assessment of a patient, only has certain diagnostic criteria to go by. If the patient meets some but not all of the criteria, he may diagnose an EDNOS.


Ipecac Syrup
Many people with eating disorders abuse a syrup called Ipecac to help induce vomiting. Ipecac should only be used in cases of accidental poisoning. Repeated use can cause the heart muscle to weaken. It can cause irregular heartbeats, chest pains, breathing problems, rapid heart rate and cardiac arrest. Ipecac is very dangerous and it has been the cause of death in many people suffering with an eating disorder. If you are using this, I would urge you to speak to your doctor immediately.

Stimulant laxatives such as Ex-Lax and Correctol are the most common laxatives used by someone with an eating disorder. Laxatives have little or no effect on reducing weight because by the time they work, the calories have already been absorbed. The person usually feels like they have lost weight because of the amount of fluid that is lost. That feeling is only temporary because the body will start to retain water within a 48 to 72 hour period. This usually leaves the person feeling bloated and fearing they are gaining weight. This is usually what leads to repeated use of these products. Laxative abuse can cause bloody diarrhea, electrolyte imbalances and dehydration. Many people find that after prolonged use they cannot move their bowels without them. The person may also experience constipation, severe abdominal pain, nausea and vomiting. Laxative abuse is very dangerous, can lead to permanent damage to the bowels, severe medical complications and even death.
Laxatives are not always used for the sole purpose of trying to rid the body of calories that have been consumed. Just like vomiting is used as a way for someone to release built up feelings and emotions, laxatives can also be used for the same reason. A person may also abuse laxatives as a way to harm themselves. The physical pain resulting from laxative abuse may be a reason that a person continues to use them. They may believe they deserve the pain or they may find that dealing with physical pain is easier then dealing with emotional pain.

Diuretics (water pills)
Diuretics are much like laxatives in the sense that they give the person a feeling of weight loss. When taken, a person will only lose vital fluids and electrolytes. Within a day or two the body will react and start to retain water, which is usually what causes a person to use them repeatedly. Abuse of diuretics usually leads to dehydration which can cause kidney damage. Electrolyte imbalances can occur from repeated use which is very serious. Your body's electrolytes need to be in balance in order for your organs, such as the heart, kidney and liver, to function properly. Once the electrolytes go out of balance, the person is at a very high risk for heart failure and sudden death. Diuretics do not cause weight loss, but repeated use can cause serious medical complications.

Diet Pills
The sale of diet pills continue to be on the rise in North America. Many people are lead to believe that they are a safe and effective way to lose weight. Most diet pills on the market are not safe, can cause serious side effects and have resulted in death. Popular diet pills such as Acutrim and Dexatrim contain a combination of phenylpropanolamine and caffeine. Phenylpropanolamine is a stimulant and effects the central nervous system. It can produce symptoms such as increased heart rate, dizziness, high blood pressure, nausea, anxiety, irritability, insomnia, dry mouth and diarrhea. Fenfluramine (Fen-Phen) is also found in many diet pills and it is quite popular. Like all diet pills, it stimulates the central nervous system and can be addictive. Its side effects can include diarrhea, high blood pressure, dry mouth, rash, palpitations and chest pains. Most doctors that prescribe Fen-Phen ignore the manufacturers warnings about who should use these pills and how long they should be taken. People using them are usually not informed of the warnings either. The manufacturer of Fen-Phen states that it should only be used in treating obesity and when the persons weight is at a point where it is a serious threat to their health. Many doctors claim that Fen-Phen is safe and can be taken for life. The manufacturer says these pills should not be taken for more than 3 months. Taking them for any longer can put you at risk for developing Primary Pulmonary Hypertension, a rare but generally fatal lung disease. The life expectancy for someone that develops Primary Pulmonary Hypertension is less than 3 years. Ephedrine is found in many diet pills and food supplements and is probably the most dangerous. It has been linked to many deaths from heart attacks, seizures and strokes. Its side effects can include irregular and rapid heart rates, nausea, diarrhea, dizziness, chest pains, breathing problems, headaches, anxiety and cardiac arrest.
Diet pills are not an effective or healthy way to lose weight. They are very dangerous and can lead to serious medical problems and death.


Pro Anorexia is an online movement made up of websites, chat rooms and message boards that support anorexia. They are typically created by women and girls who currently suffer from anorexia and are looking for support.
Unlike websites designed to help remove anorexia tendancies, pro anorexia websites are created to help support anorexia and negative body image. The pro anorexia websites typically contain online journals, tips and tricks for successful anorexia, pictures of thin women, quotations, and chat rooms or message boards where the women can communicate.


Do I have an eating problem?

One of the hardest steps to take when you have an eating disorder is to admit it to yourself. Generally speaking if thoughts about food are consuming a lot of your time, or you are unhappy around food and eating issues, then it is enough of an issue to do something about.
Eating disorders are not uncommon in our community. Many people live with these disorders for long periods of time without treatment or a clinical diagnosis. Although the onset of an eating disorder is usually during adolescence, the reality is that these disorders affect all age groups, both genders and people from a range of backgrounds and different cultures.
Eating disorders vary in their severity. Although not all people may fall into a clinical definition of an eating disorder, people may still have problems with their eating and thought patterns, which cause them physical and psychological damage. Similarly, people may develop problems with their eating patterns that may later develop into an eating disorder.
If you think it is a problem then do something about it!!

Telling Someone

Once you have admitted to yourself that you have an eating disorder, you are faced with another step; to seek support. Telling someone can be very difficult especially for the first time. You may feel embarrassed, guilty or ashamed. Possibly, you may also feel afraid of the person’s reaction.
Although we can never predict someone else’s behaviour, we can spend hours wondering how they may react when we tell them. Often we think of a negative scenario, to prepare ourselves for the worst. However, the only way we are ever going to know how someone will react is if we take the risk to tell them. It can be useful to remind yourself of the benefits of telling someone, such as getting support and not having to hide a secret anymore.
It may be useful to consider who you would like to tell. It may be a friend, a family doctor, a family member, or a partner. People will have varying reactions; some may be surprised, uncomfortable, confused, or worried. Others may be angry, scared and unsure of what to say. Some may have seen the signs and are glad you have told them.
Remind yourself that they may need a few days to deal with their own feelings and reactions. If you have a negative experience telling someone, it is important that you don’t let this stop you from getting the professional help and support you deserve. Consider who else you may tell such as a friend, family member or professional.
Eating disorders are much easier to overcome and have a much higher rate of complete recover if you have the support of your family and friends!!
It's not your fault
It is absolutely, under no circumstances, your fault that you have an eating disorder. You didn't ask for it and you are not to blame.
Actually, I don't really need help...
Maybe your parents/family/friend say that you have an eating disorder but you don't think so? There is, of course, the possibility that you DON'T have an eating disorder, but your friends or loved ones must be concerned for a reason. You might be thinking to yourself, "I'm too fat to be anorexic", or "I only throw up a few times a week, that doesn't make me bulimic", or "I don't binge on nearly enough calories to be a binge-eater". Often we are in denial when we are suffering from eating disorders so trust those who love you.

You are not...
alone in your suffering - millions of people in the US alone have an eating disorder
weird or a nut case - you have an illness that is treatable just like any other

You are...
just as entitled to live a normal, healthy life as any other person


Causes of Eating Disorders

There is no one single cause of eating disorders. It is currently agreed that eating disorders are multi factorial – with social/cultural, psychological, biological, family and precipitating factors all playing a part in varying degrees for different people.
Contributing factors may include:

Social/Cultural Factors
-idealisation of thinness
-focus on appearance
-weight loss, fashion, fitness cosmetic and pharmaceutical industries etc
-media representations of happy, thin, successful people
-socialisation of women and men

Family Factors
-There is no typical family ‘type,’ however, some family characteristics may need to be addressed during the recovery process such as:
-communication within the family/how family deals with feelings
-attitudes around the importance of appearance, achievement etc
-parent’s own body image/dieting behaviour

Biological Factors
-The importance of biological factors is still being researched. Possible factors include:
-predisposition to imbalances in serotonin (a neuro-transmitter involved in mood and brain function)
-reduced blood flow to the temporal lobe
-fasting, over-exercise and vomiting may affect chemicals involved in mood control

Individual Factors
-Not everyone exposed to cultural and family factors develops an eating disorder, therefore individual factors play an important role. Again, there is no one single cause, but some common experiences such as:
-people with high personal expectations
-belief that love is dependent on being ‘perfect’
-self-esteem issues
-high need for approval from others
-social anxiety
-people who find it difficult to express their own needs
-difficulty being assertive
-personality factors may be affected by malnutrition

Precipitating Factors
-Often the onset of an eating disorder can be triggered by an external factor such as:
-life crisis - family loss, friendship loss, moving to a new home, school or job, personal disappointment etc
-accumulation of minor stressors; the impact of cultural, family or individual factors may intensify during periods of stress
-dieting (link to further information)
-history of abuse

Emotional and Psychological Consequences of Eating Disorders

Eating disorders place tremendous emotional strain on people. Left unattended eating disorders can destroy the quality of a person’s life and are potentially life threatening.
-anxiety, anxiety disorders
-obsessive behaviour
-social isolation/withdrawal
-difficulty with relationships
-suicidal thoughts or behaviour
-drug misuse
-poor quality of life
-lack of assertiveness
-sensitivity to criticism
-guilt, self-dislike
-impaired achievement at school, work etc


Determining if someone has an eating disorder can sometimes be difficult, especially if the person is secretive about his or her behaviour. However, if you have any concerns that something might be wrong, it is better to try and broach the issue with the person, rather than ignore it. There are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ ways to do this, however, there are some points to consider:
-Communicate with them. Be honest and open about your concerns. More damage can be done physically and psychologically to a person who lives with an eating disorder for a long time.
-Try to maximise the chances of a positive conversation. Use your knowledge of the person when deciding which is the best way to approach them.
-Assure them that you are talking about it because of your concern.
-Use ‘I’ statements rather than ‘You’ statements. ‘You’ statements can lead to the person feeling attacked.
-For example, ‘I am concerned for you because I have noticed you are not so happy at the moment’ rather than ‘You aren’t happy at the moment.’
-Offer information, so that the person has something to read later, perhaps a brochure or a list of services.
-Try to avoid using labelling or judgemental language. Focus on the person’s behavioural changes, rather than their weight, food consumption or physical appearance.
-For example, you might decide not to use the words eating disorder or bulimia but to talk more generally about moods, behaviour, isolation and your concerns about these.
-Choose a time when you are both feeling calm and are unlikely to have any distractions. Pick a safe and comfortable place.
-Be prepared for their emotional reaction, which may be one of anger, denial or relief.
-Anger – they may feel anger that their privacy has been threatened, that they have not been able to deal with the eating disorder on their own, that they are embarrassed or ashamed.
-Denial – they may deny there is a problem because they feel guilty or ashamed, they may feel protective about their eating disorder especially if it serves a purpose for them ie: a way of coping or feeling in control. Alternatively they may be confused because they have not yet identified themselves as having an eating disorder.
-Relief – they may feel relieved that someone has noticed and offered them support or help.
-Encourage them to seek professional help from counsellors, doctors, youth workers, community health centres, associations such as the EDFV.
-Encourage them to seek support from anyone that they feel comfortable with; friends, family, friends parents etc.
-Encourage them to see the benefits of a life without an eating disorder.
-Seek support for yourself.
If the person is truly endangering his or her life by their eating habits, family and friends may need to insist that professional help is sought.

This is a great guide for family and friends:


Medical Treatment
There are many physical complications that can result from an eating disorder. Left unattended, they can lead to serious health problems or death. It is important that physical health is monitored, preferably by a medical practitioner with experience in the area of eating disorders. A medical examination may involve several tests, followed by treatment of any medical problems such as anaemia, heartburn, disturbances in heart rhythm, low bone density etc.

Nutritional Counselling/Advice
Dietitians or nutritionists may be useful in the treatment of eating disorders as education and establishment of a well-balanced diet are essential to recovery. Nutritional counselling and advice may be useful to help the person identify their fears about food and the physical consequences of not eating well. Education about the nutritional values of food can be beneficial particularly when the person has lost track of what ‘normal eating’ is. Dietitians or nutritionists may work in conjunction with other professionals.

Psychological Therapy
The basis of psychological treatment is in forming a trusting relationship with the therapist and addressing pertinent issues to the person such as the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that lead to the development and maintenance of the eating disorder. This may include issues with anxiety, depression, poor self esteem and self confidence, difficulties with interpersonal relationships and empowering the person to realise their own resources to overcome their difficulties.
Some particular models of psychological therapy that may be used in the treatment of eating disorders include:

Psychotherapy aims to identify the psychological stresses that may have contributed to the onset of the eating disorder. Through talking and other techniques (personal development exercises, etc) the aim of this process is to reduce the feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, negative body image and guilt etc and help people to develop their life skills.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
CBT has become a popular form of treatment for people experiencing eating disorders. Based on the premise that thoughts and feelings are inter-dependent, CBT encourages people to re-examine and challenge existing thought and behaviour patterns. Challenging distorted or unhelpful ways of thinking can allow healthier behaviours to emerge.
In relation to eating disorders, CBT aims to change the way the person thinks about food and themselves. It aims to identify the characteristic thoughts that reinforce disordered eating behaviour and encourage more positive ways of thinking. Some thought patterns that CBT may challenge include black and white thinking, magnification (of importance of events etc) and errors in attribution (misunderstanding of the relationship between cause and effect).

Interpersonal Psychotherapy
IPT has been used successfully in the treatment of eating disorders, particularly bulimia and binge eating problems. IPT focuses on interpersonal difficulties in the person’s life which are considered to be the basis of the eating disorder. Generally, therapy involves three phases including the identification of interpersonal difficulties, the development of a contract to work on several specific issues and the assessment of changes. The therapy is usually medium term (16-20 weeks).
In the initial stage, the therapist will generally explore the history of eating problems, interpersonal relationships prior to and after the development of an eating disorder, significant life events and self-esteem and depression issues. Major problem areas are identified and typically fall into four categories; grief, role disputes with other people, role transitions and interpersonal skills. A therapeutic contract is developed between the client and the therapist based on the major problem areas in the person’s life.

Group Therapy
The main purpose of group therapy is to provide a supportive network of people who have similar issues to explore issues around their eating disorder. Groups may address many issues from alternative coping strategies, underlying issues, ways to change behaviours, triggers to personal needs and long-term goals. Groups are generally closed in attendance for a specific period of time (eg. 8 weeks).

Family therapy
Family therapy usually involves the people that are living with or are very close to the person with the eating disorder. This may involve parents, siblings and/or spouses. The family, as a unit, is encouraged to develop ways to cope with issues that may be causing concern including the eating disorder. The success of this treatment is dependent on the family being willing to participate and make changes to their behaviours. Family therapy can also offer education to other family members about the eating disorder and how better to support the person they care about. Overall the family is encouraged to develop healthy ways to deal with the eating disorder.
Family therapy also acknowledges that every family has issues that are difficult to deal with. As a part of a person’s recovery from an eating disorder, it can be useful to address issues in the family context such as conflict or tension between members, communication problems, difficulty expressing feelings, substance abuse or physical or sexual abuse.

Drug therapy
Drug therapy may be used to treat hormonal or chemical imbalances. In the treatment of eating disorders, anti-depressants belonging to the Serotonin Specific Reuptake Inhibitor group (SSRI) such as zoloft, prozac, aropax and paxil are commonly prescribed.
Research suggests that anti-depressants such as prozac are useful in suppressing the binge/purge cycle, particularly for people with bulimia. For people experiencing anorexia nervosa, they may be useful in stabilising weight recovery. However, like all medications, not all anti-depressants work for everyone as people respond differently. Some people experience side effects in varying degrees of severity such as anxiety, nausea, loss of or increase in appetite, nervousness, insomnia, headaches, rashes, abnormal dreams and blood pressure changes.
The effectiveness of drug therapy increases when combined with other forms of therapy such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

Support Groups
Support groups differ from therapy groups in that they are intended to offer mutual support, increased understanding and information. Where a therapy group is generally closed in attendance and runs for a specified period (eg. eight weeks), support groups are generally open in attendance (people can attend as often as they wish) and meet on a regular basis (eg. fortnightly). Generally, support groups are not run by professionals, but by people who have had experience with the issue, either personally or indirectly.

Traditional hypnotherapy typically involves a sleep-like state or altered state of consciousness usually induced by a therapist. It is based on the premise that during this altered state of consciousness, a person is more responsive to suggestions and has greater access to influential functions usually outside their conscious control. However, more recent theories of hypnosis may include role playing, story telling and interpersonal influence between the therapist and the client.

Alternative Therapies
Alternative therapies can be useful for some people as an adjunct to pysychological, nutritional and medical treaments. For instance meditation can help with reducing anxiety levels or massage can help us to reconnect with our bodies. Each approach is different, however alternative therapies are generally concerned with treating the person as a whole, including their mental and physical health and may include:
Herbal treatment aimed at stimulating the body to heal itself.
Acupuncture An ancient Chinese therapy using needles and herbs to stimulate the body’s energy flow.
Use of essential oils for relaxation and stress relief.
Mental relaxation intended to create an inner calmness.
Aims to stimulate the body’s natural defences (anti-bodies) to illness, by introducing the problem substance into the body.

What is Recovery?

It can be useful to consider recovery as the process of healing, rather than an outcome. Many people want to know when the person they love will be recovered and back to their old selves. For most people, there will be no particular day, event or marker that will indicate that they are ‘recovered.’ Rather, recovery is more often a long and complex process and can be vastly different for each individual depending on many factors.
Recovery can involve personal discovery, re-learning, challenges, achievements and setbacks. For many people, it is just the beginning of a life long process of being more aware of who they are and what is important to them. Often, people won’t go back to being their old selves, because their recovery is a positive learning experience resulting in significant personal growth.


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How can I make an At-Home Facial Mask?

By knoxville24:

I have decided to make a topic that everyone can use to help out their skin naturally.  

Dry Skin

- Half a banana
- Table spoon of honey
- Table spoon of sour cream

Combine the ingredients into a bowl. After putting a warm washcloth on your face for a few seconds, put the mixture onto your face and let sit for 10 minutes. Wash off with warm water and for the last rinse of your face use cold water to close pores.

Using just the honey works wonderfully too. Or try combining the honey with oatmeal.

Normal Skin

- One egg yolk
- One teaspoon olive oil
- Dry or cooked oatmeal

Combine ingredients and let sit on your face for 10 - 15 minutes and rinse off with water water, and cold water following for last rinse.

Oily Skin

- One grated apple
- One table spoon honey

Mix well and apply to face for 10 minutes and rinse off with warm water.

Loosen blackheads

- Baking soda
- Water

Mix the two into your head and scrub your face with them for 2 or 3 minutes and rinse.


    More ingredients for dry skin:

  • Avocado
  • Plain olive oil
  • Yogurt


    More ingredients for oily skin:

  • Cucumber
  • Pureed tomato
  • Carrots

Masks for refreshing skin

- Grapes, cut them in half and rub on your face then rinse

- Strawberries, mush and put on face for 2-3 minutes

- Grapefruit, mush and put on face for 2-3 minutes and rinse.

Remember you can mix different ingredients for what you need for yourself, so try them and see what combo you like best.  

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Where can I find out what exactly is wrong with me, given the symptoms that I have?

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