I just got the shock of a lifetime really, my long distance girlfriend dumped me a few weeks ago because she couldn't handle the distance between us and has regretted that decision ever since and I still love her and wanted to get back with her.

Today I got my shot really and I took it. And she said she couldn't ask me to take her back because she would be asking me to be a part of something that I might not want..

At most I thought maybe she wanted an open relationship but it turns out in fact that she's pregnant.
2 weeks ago not very long after she dumped me she had sex and is now pregnant... and she said she's sure she's always been to the doctor.

Now over the last few weeks I've had issues involving trust with her, I can't believe she could lie about something as huge as this but could she be pregnant? can you tell so soon?

And do i really want to be apart of that, I still love her and I can't help but think yes, I will but would it be a bad decision?

God I'm so shocked and confused right now...
Oh btw I'm 18 and she's 15, and she hasn't told the father yet, he's also 15... I think.
And she doesn't know whether she will keep the baby or not...

Post edited at 2:02 pm on Oct. 25, 2006 by Anonymous

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sooo...did she cheat on you???

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During the 6 month relationship she did once, but it was simply a kiss or well she swears to me that was it.

This incident however happened after the relationship ended therefore I know its not cheating....

Post edited at 2:21 pm on Oct. 25, 2006 by Anonymous

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I hate to break this to you but if she had the sex after you broke up she didnt cheat on you

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I didn't say she cheated on me.
What I want to know is can you tell whether a girl is pregnant 2 weeks after having sex?
And would it be a wise decision to go back to my ex-girlfriend even though she's pregnant with anoth guys baby.

Post edited at 2:14 pm on Oct. 25, 2006 by Anonymous

Technically, that is not cheating seeing that your relationship was ended.

Unfortunately, you now harbour feelings for a person who does not want to be with you anymore.

I'm sorry to hear that she dose not want a relationship anymore, and i am sorry to hear that you feel so strongly for her and then this enters your life. Yes it is possible to find out that she is pregnant quite early in the pregnancy, how early, I'm not sure.

Your feelings for her may never go away. You may have feelings for her for a long time. I believe that this does not have to be a bad thing. I believe in taking those feelings and channeling them somewhere else, essentially know they are there, but do not recognizing them.

You have to ask yourself, do you want to be involved with someone who dumped you, and then got pregnant with another man? Possibly one she barley knows? You said it yourself, you've has trust issues. I think trust is a vital foundation for any relationship, and to me, it does not sound like the situation she has gotten herself into,m and the way she has made you feel about all this is a healthy path to follow in life.

I do hope this has helped in some way? Comments/ Questions? Concerns?

Warm regards,
BM

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She does want to be with me she doesn't doesn't want to load something this big onto me...
She can't ask me to be a part of this because she doesn't think it would be fair on me...

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I think that is a very wise decision on her part.

But in the end, you have to ask yourself this important question: Do you want to be a part of it?

Post edited at 2:41 pm on Oct. 25, 2006 by Anonymous

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Thanks to those of you who took the time to give me some advice, I love her and want to be with her and I'd say yes right now expect this is a big decision for me, and I think id need a little more time to think things over, I have only known all this for a few hours, I'm still actually in shock because it was the very last thing I expected to find out...

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Thats a good choice. Honestly, it is not up to us to tell you what decision or path to take in your life. I am not you, i have not felt what you have felt with this person. the only thing i can do is offer advice and tell you what I'd do in your situation.

And i would think things through, which your doing. Just don't rush into something this large, this fast, you may end up regretting it down the road. Your doing the mature thing by waiting, thinking and letting things set.

I wish you all the luck my friend,
BM

Ah, I have no idea if you can if a girl is pregnant within two weeks. Did she get a home pregnancy test, or actually have it done at the doctor's office?

It's your decision to stay with her or not. From what you have said you really do love her, and she says so... Be practical though, is this relationship really going to work?


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To be honest, if she really loved you and wanted you then why would she have sex with another person (regardless of whether or not you've broken up)?

Ah, I have no idea if you can if a girl is pregnant within two weeks. Did she get a home pregnancy test, or actually have it done at the doctor's office?  

It's your decision to stay with her or not. From what you have said you really do love her, and she says so... Be practical though, is this relationship really going to work?  

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Well she did say she had seen a doctor. And in reference to your comment that I have now made bold in the quote, I've been actually wondering that myself...

During our relationship she kissed that very same guy and now she's pregnant after having sex with that same guy.

So my honest opinion right now is that she has feelings for him. I just really can't deal with all this.