okay. my little brother stayed the night with me a few weeks ago and accidentally left some of his stuff. i was sorting it all out and packing it up to take back to him when i found a couple of notes between him and his girlfriend. i know i shouldn't have read them. it was none of my business. but i did read them. and i'm glad i did. because i learned something very disturbing...
my 17 YEAR OLD brother is trying to get his 16 YEAR OLD girlfriend pregnant. they're just kids. babies, really. and while he's already in the army, he's not financially secure. and won't be until much much later. and she had all the dreams of college. their reasoning for wanting to have a baby so young.... SO THEY CAN GET MARRIED!!!! how screwed up is that? my questing is... how can i convince them that this is the wrong way to go about getting what they want. because after they have the baby... what then. they're married. they have a kid. but no money. no house. crappy jobs because they'll have to quit school to take care of the kid. why do they want to grow up so fast? just five months ago my brother was SURE he didn't want to be with his girlfriend. they even broke up for a while. how can he be POSITIVE that he wants to marry her now and have a kid with her? i just don't understand why they would conciously do this to themselves. why make life harder than it has to be?
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tell them there is no need for a baby to get married
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talk to him about it..
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theres no sure why to get him to think of what he is doing....have you tried talkig to him about it? Maybe once he see's your piint of view on it maybe then he'll understand why you are so upset. But your right...if she is still in school then most of her education is gone because she'll have to go on bed rest. if you don't want to pull your parent's in on his life then you need to talk to him to tell him that he'll throw his life away if he has a kid. The military doesn't really pay that much and trying to support 2 other people besides himself he's gonna run out of money real fast and not even know it. Grant it the army does pay real nice but once you think of everything that he has to buy the kid and his girlfriend then he's screwed. Try and talk to him and see what he has to say about it...
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Go tell him real life story's or show him ppl that really struggles in life and ask him if he wants to end up like that
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If you didn't do the wrong thing (reading the notes) you wouldn't even had bother about it their indeed doing a naive choice, tell them that they can get married but get the kid later when they have good jobs. And if you tell your brother you read his notes he'll be very pissed at you, since I know I would..
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Quote: from TMAX at 9:34 am on Sep. 20, 2006
If you didn't do the wrong thing (reading the notes) you wouldn't even had bother about it their indeed doing a naive choice, tell them that they can get married but get the kid later when they have good jobs. And if you tell your brother you read his notes he'll be very pissed at you, since I know I would..
i know it was wrong to read his notes. i said it was wrong. i shouldn't have read them... but i think the bigger picture is MY BABY BROTHER IS RUINING HIS LIFE!
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Well your going to have very hard time to tell him hes doing the wrong thing he seems obsessed about his gf and doesn't want to lose her, selfish in the other hand aswell..
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Tell your brother that he is still too young to get married and have a child of his own. Talk reasonably and sensibly and he will listen to you. Remind him that you are saying what you are saying out of love and put across your points in a way that doesn't make you sound like you are critiscising him.
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just talk to him about it..tell him its too soon to have a kid..he has his whole life ahead of him..and if down the road him and this girl are still together then yeah mayb get married and then talk about kids..NOT NOW..they will ruin both of their lives..
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You don't actually have to tell him you read his notes.. find someplace where there's likely to be a baby.. a movie theatre.. a restaurant.. Wal-Mart.. but the baby has to be loud and unruly.. and then, say "Man.. I'm glad I'm not wasting the best years of my life changing diapers and getting puked on".. that should do the trick, if you can find the perfect little brat.
Or, you could land him a job babysitting a snotty kid. He'll be happy to wait the extra two years to get married, brat free.
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If you didn't do the wrong thing (reading the notes) you wouldn't even had bother about it their indeed doing a naive choice, tell them that they can get married but get the kid later when they have good jobs. And if you tell your brother you read his notes he'll be very pissed at you, since I know I would..
