I HONESTLY try to do the right thing, I tell them about myself and what I like to do and I ask about them and the things they do, try and open up convos, and it just doesn't work. Sometimes I get ignored when I'm trying to tell them things and when I ask NORMAL casual questions and sometimes I get half baked answers... I KNOW I don't come on strong, because I'm fairly passive and don't like talking THAT much, so I don't understand what is wrong.

Women always tell males who have troubles like this that they need "confidence". While I agree that it's important, the confidence that they seem asking for men to have seems to be just "stupidity" for lack of a better term. Just try the same thing over and over and keep telling yourself you're perfectly awesome.

YES, I can get over rejection dust my shoulder's off and move on, but how many times can I use "It's her lose"? How many times can you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and blame the other person for knocking you down?   If you keep failing,  it's basic fact that there is most likely something wrong with what you are doing. I don't want to do the same thing over and over, i want to find out what is wrong with ME and fix it, that's why I am asking for help.

No, I don't think I'm ugly, no I don't think I suck, but I think SOMETHING is wrong with some part of me and I want to FIX it, but I can't pin point it by myself.