Shes 22, shes really attractive - blonde, blue eyes, tall, really nice figure and shes got a nice car. She is really nice to me, she laughs a lot, she smiles, and is just a really nice peerson.

Catherine however, is 22, short, a little chubby, brown hair, brown eyes and has fake tan. She has a shitty '94 toyota karena thats practically falling apart. Catherine was so lovely, she was nice, she laughed so much, she smiled constantly when i was with her. She always made me smile, in fact thinking about her now is making me smile.

What i dont understand is that ive met another girl, who is more attractive than Catherine, and treats me in a very similiar way to Catherine, has a nicer car.....and yet Im still thnking about Catherine. Im not trying to get with this girl, im not even considering it. The only idea that has anything to do with her is that she might be a passage in getting closer to Catherine again.

Why is it that ive met this other girl, same age as catherine, nicer car, more attractive and treats me in the same way as Catherine did, and im not even looking at her for anything?

I havent spoken to Catherine in 10 months, and its unlikely we'll talk again.

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I have seen you make a lot of posts about this girl, Catherine. It sounds like you really fell hard for her. It is hard to let that go, and it is hard to ever think about new relationships, new feelings,etc.

I am not saying this other girl Claire is the right one for you, but how will you ever know if you never let Catherine go. I know it is hard, and I know you dont want to, but you have to. You have to move on, and you have to let your life keep going.

You are young, and full of life, and worth so much more than this pain and heartache.

Go on a date, go hang out with a girl, and it may be hard, and it may be awkward, but you have to get over this. If you dont 'get back on the horse' so to speak, you will be pining away forever, and that is just miserable.

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As you'll also have noticed- it doesn't really come down to looks alone, does it, when you've found someone you just click with? This girl could be absolutely stunning, but your feelings for Catherine are still there and you're therefore not allowing yourself to see the potential in other girls - girls who might be just as good for you as Catherine.

I wouldn't worry about not looking for it to go anywhere with this girl. I mean, if it's unlikely that you'll speak to Catherine again then I reckon you should focus on moving on from her and on feeling good and positive about yourself personally. Remember that you still have to communicate with and get to know girls and all of that, but, in time, once all that has been achieved, I do think you'll find a girl who can be just as special to you.

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it's broken beyond repair. it's in a million little pieces.

Obviously, first things off - you are very much in love with Catherine. Beauty is skin deep. Love doesn't know beauty. Just because Claire is more traditionally beautiful then Catherine, doesn't nessecerily make her as compatible. People attribute fine memories to people they loved. Did you have good times with Catherine? Is she nostalgic to you? It could also just be that she reminded you of better times. Especially if you are currently dealing with depression.

Did you and Catherine have a bad ending? if so, you could just still be experiencing the after-effects of a bad break-up. Was it on your terms? If not, it's hard to except when someone you love so much just doesn't seem to want you anymore. It could also come down to simple human logic. People want what they can't have every day. Perhaps the thought of Catherine is attractive to you because she is forbidden for some reason.

Does something in particular turn you off about Clair? Is there something that she is into that you don't particularly agree with? The slightest things can be "turn-offs" Maybe there is just something that Catherine did right that Claire does wrong.

If you are with Claire and still think of someone else fonder then her, you should not be with her. You could probably use some time to just be single and try to really get over Catherine. Or at least wait until you find someone who fills the void that she makes you feel. Don't leave yourself unsatisfied, you deserve the best kind of love. Selling yourself short would just be unfair.

Have you talked to Catherine? Who knows, maybe she really is your destiny. You can't escape fate. If you haven't spoken with her in a while; you should try contacting her to find out if she wants to get together sometime. If it is a flat out "no" then just accept that and know that it really is time to move on and find someone who can be your next Catherine. Don't settle for second best, though.

If you ever need any advice, PM me.


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