How do you guys cope with excessive shame/embarrassment for things that are in the past, cannot be undone - and most of the time are not as crushingly bad as you feel every time they flash into your memory?
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jamescoleman
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try not to think about them. everyone has shame and embarrassment. embarrassment can be a weakness because it can hold you back
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Soren Kierkegaard
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I simply immerse myself is other things around me rather than becoming too emotionally invested in what I know wouldn't be a deciding factor once it has already passed.
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Simple2005
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What doesn't kill me makes me stronger. What made me embarassed in the bast doesn't even phase me now. You face your fears and move on.
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Honestly? I spasm and try to ignore them, but kudos on your phrasing of that. This happens to me all the time and you have worded it so vividly, expressing it like I've never been able to.
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Majo
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I try my best not to think about them and/or tell myself that I'm probably the only one who remembers anyways.
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