for girls who have gone to the gyno:

i want to go on birth control, and i need a female exam for that. (don't say "go to planned parenthood", because that's out of the question...they'll only give it to you for the first year...then you NEED and exam before they keep giving it to you). so anyways, my only other option is to go to the gyno and get it over with so that i can get the birth control, and stop fretting over it. My best guy friend said that he'll go with me and sit in the room, because i don't want my step-mom or mom in there with me, and i don't want to be alone. so now that i've got my "support group", i'm really scared to go.  

some of the reasons i don't want to go are because i'm really self-consious because i'm fat. i weigh 220 pouinds, and i have huge legs, and i'm embarassed by it, so i don't want someone down there seeing my fat legs and where they rub together and cause ingrown hairs and all that.  

another reason is because i'm afraid of smelling. obviously everyone's "parts" smell, and if you have an std, then it will smell even worse (depending on the std), but it still bothers me. i can smell it myself, like, when i use the bathroom and stuff, and it's really strong to me. not a bad strong like i'm unhealthy, but girls are more sensitive to their own smell, and that's part of it, too.

the third reason i'm afraid is because i will feel violated. i don't want someone down there with a lamp shining on my crotch with their face all up in it trying to get a swab, and then worse, sticking their fingers in there and pressing on my abdomen.

i'm afraid it will hurt when they take the swab, because pressure hurts me.  

i'm afraid i will get pinched or hurt by the clamps, or that they will pop out and i will be embarrassed.

the whole thing is obviously uncomftorable, but it's a little worse when they have to do the breast exam, because then you're face to face, and i don't want someone rubbing and pressing on my breasts. (sometimes they make you sit up and move your arms from up to on your hips, and i really don't want to do that.)

i'm afraid that they'll have me do a breast self-exam so that they can show me how to do it and stuff, and that would embarrass me a lot.

please help me. how do i get past all these fears? was it bad when you went? what were your fears before you went, and how did you get over them? thank you a lot.

Post edited at 6:20 pm on Mar. 31, 2008 by baileysababy6

but its really not that bad, trust me. I'm on BC right now and have been for about 7 months. If you're getting it for your period, they don't have to give you the full exam.

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Keep your bf out of the room.