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( branflakes  )
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Okay, for those of you who don't know me (probably most of you), I'm not an angry person most of the time. I do get very passionate about things and I do dislike certain people but I generally am personable. Lately, however, when someone does something that pisses me off, I always call them out on it. For example, a friend of mine who can be cocky was basically "parenting" some of his/my friends and I seriously flipped out on him for it. Now, the thing is.. I've kind of been dealing with this for awhile and not saying anything so I have a right to yell at him for it, don't I? Or do I not have that right? Similarly, my dad has many mannerisms that really piss me off (he can be a control freak at times). He just did one thing that pisses me off and I asked him why he always does it for no reason. It kind of makes me wonder why I've never said anything about it before. So my question is this.. am I wrong in flipping out on people when they do things out of line? Should I be handling certain things better? Or does it depend on the situation? Post if you have any comments, suggestions, or questions.
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JadedIcara
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Flipping out isn't usually a great thing, and usually is an extension of some sort of stress, either directly related or not. My suggestion would be to find out what helps you relax (for me, I need to spend three or four hours in bed, reading or watching TV by myself, away from boyfriend and puppy) and make sure you're aware of the fact that you're stressed before you respond to someone. "Dude, I'm really stressed lately, so I'm sorry if this sounds nasty, but you are bugging the shit out of me with this parenting thing - remember we're your age, yeah?"
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xalliexcutiex
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I do think it's a good thing that you've kind of...found your voice, if that makes sense. Even I am constantly outraed by things that some of my friends or family members do, but I never just call them on it. As for your friend and his "parenting", I think it is good that you said something about it, but probably since it's your friend, and it's in front of other people, you don't want it to come off as being aggressive. You could always try a bit calmer approach. But honestly, this may have flaws because I wasn't there so I can't properly judge how you handled the situation. But still. As for your dad, it sounds like you handled that pretty well. Just a simple, "why did you do that" can really make the person think or feel bad about what they did. So overall, I think you're doing a good thing to say something that makes you mad, but be sure not to get carried away with it. Some things will make you mad, but they aren't significant enough to flip out. So make sure you are able to let some things go, too.
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Catalyst11
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Well, flipping out isn't really the thing to do, but if I have dealt with things for a long time, and they haven't stopped, I will first try to tell the person nicely they need to stop more than once. If they don't stop after the 4th time, I usually flip out, and yell at them a whole lot. But I don't like doing it, its just that the stress of what they do piles on, and then I have like 20 million stress monkeys on my back, so I snap and go Berserk
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Some people are just like slinkys. They're just plain boring,
but its always fun to push them down a flight of stairs
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aaron13
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its normal, youre sick of getting pushed around by your parents
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