Sometimes is good to keep being friends with your ex but, I also think that a good time without any contact is necessary just to calm things down.

Maybe he needs to work out some issues, so if you speak with him, he could understand how you don't like his behavior... Try to comunicate, but again, if he's too aggressive, do it in a public place. Don't put yourself in danger and don't let him get to you.

Post edited at 1:51 pm on Mar. 16, 2008 by iJeannie

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I went flying outta my window, been caught doin it once
or twice... but it feels so real nice. Saw the earth, and I
saw the sky and I've been flying ever since
and I've been flying in the sky

If it's your ex-boyfriend, why do you keep hanging around him? You don't have to hang around him even though you used to be in a relationship. I understand that you might want to stay "friends" but, if he's acting this way and it's making you uncomfortable, you should really consider staying away from him and instead hanging out with nicer, friendlier people. You don't deserve to feel uncomfortable.

If you consider him your "boyfriend" still, why not talk to him about it? Even if you're not official, you can still consider talking to him about it. Maybe he doesn't really that what he's doing is scaring you and making you fear him. Just calmly let him know that you'd like him to stop because you are unsure of what he might do. Communication is important in any sort of friendship or relationship so don't try to push this issue to the side if you want to stay close to him.

Regardless of the "status" of you two, realize that you deserve good treatment. There are a lot of great people out there just like there are bad people. Don't stick around the bad ones. Meet new people and have fun with your life and don't feel guilty for leaving the ones that make you feel bad about yourself and your life.

I hope this helps!

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Thanks for all the great responses i got we have split up so many times but i stil regard him as my boyfriend which is why i want the verbal abuse 2 stop i shouldnt have 2 be scared of going 2 talk 2 him in his classroom in case he starts its not just the fact that he slammed the table its also that he was accusing me of following him around and he told me 2 shut up in front of his friends in other words he turned such a little thing like giving him a birthday card in 2 such a big deal i dont know what else 2 do 2 help i just wish i could help him with the problem which he has which is controlling his temper love laura xxx

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I understand that it can be tough for you when you really want to help him get better with his anger issues. The problem is that sometimes, when problems get this out of hand, it can become impossible for friends/girlfriends/family/whoever to help him. He has to want to change for it to work.

If he really does care about you and you talk to him about this, you might want to recommend that he seek professional help. He could have a chemical imbalance that needs to be treated or underlying problems that require therapy. None of these things are your fault and you shouldn't feel like you're required to deal with them.

However, if he doesn't budge and doesn't think there's anything wrong with his personality, I really suggest that you move on. People like this aren't worth your time. There are a lot of other great guys out there that you will give you a great time and love you for who you are. Don't stick with someone that treats you poorly, especially if they're not willing to help themselves!

You shouldn't let him threat you this way, and you need to decide if you want to keep being in that situation or move on. Think about it? ... You can do so much better, and I bet, you can find someone who wants to threat you the way you deserve it if you wait a bit.

Most people after a relationship have feelings and things can get confusing, so again, time separated is the key to a healthy post gf/bf friendship.

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I went flying outta my window, been caught doin it once
or twice... but it feels so real nice. Saw the earth, and I
saw the sky and I've been flying ever since
and I've been flying in the sky