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Replies: 2 — Last Post April 28, 2008 9:03am by lieslx
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I am 15-years-old and have a 13-year-old sister. About a year ago our parents got divorced, and my sister and I are living with our mother.
Over the past 6 months or so, a cousin of ours - our mother's sister's 17-year-old son - has been a regular visitor to our home, and our mother and cousin have been spending a lot of time together.
His visits have become so regular, that my sister and I suspect there might be something going on between them.
A couple of weeks ago our mother told us she was expecting a baby but did not say who the father is. She is already starting to show.
My sister and I think our cousin might be the father. What should we do? Should we approach our mother about this? Should we discuss this with other family members?
10:43 am on Mar. 15, 2008 | Joined: Mar. 2008 | Days Active: 9
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Whatever you do, you need to make sure that you have good evidence before you go around and make this HUGE accusation.  This type of thing is a really touchy subject and putting something like this out in the open could be very detrimental to your family.  

I would probably just ask my mother who the father of the baby is. Be very careful how you bring it up, though.  Try not to act like it is a huge deal that she is pregnant, because if she feels she needs to act defensive, the chances are that she will lie about who it is that got her pregnant.  If there is any evidence of actual substance I'm sure that your moms sister will wonder about it as well.  People tend to be very knowing when it come to things with their kids, and your aunts skepticism will probably take care of the worrying part for you.  

Bringing something like this up to your extended family is accusational, to say the least.  Chances are that people will get offended, rumors will start, and feelings will be hurt.  For the time being I don't really see a reason for you to make this public.

Good luck with your family situation.  

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The past month has been the most difficult for me. I have tried to be strong, but has been unable to. My sister and I have finally summoned up enough courage to approach our mother about our concerns.
Our mother has finally admitted to being pregnant, but when asked if our cousin was the father, she just laughed it off. The baby is due September. Can you imagine how it is tearing me apart knowing my mother is having sexual intercourse with my cousin, a boy my age? Can you imagine a baby with a seventeen-year-old father and thirty-one-year-old mother?  Will I be the baby's sister, or the baby's aunt? What if our cousin were to move in with our mother? I need help!
On Friday our mother informed us that she would be going away with a friend for this long weekend and that we would have to spend the weekend with our grandmother. On Saturday our aunt (our cousin's mother) came to visit her mother, and it was then that we learnt our cousin had gone off for the weekend as well.
My sister and I immediately became suspicious. Later on we asked a friend to drive us to our house and noticed that our mother's car was in the driveway. We were too afraid to go into the house, thinking our mother and cousin might be having sex and returned to our grandmother's.
My sister and I are now thinking of approaching our aunt and enlisting her help in gettting to the bottom of this.
My sister and I am so ashamed of our mother. What will other people say when they find out about this? Can you imagine the endless teasing? What about the poor baby? I feel so sorry for it. Won't we be placed into social care if the authorities were to become involved?
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