When I turned 12, he started acting differently towards me. Looking at my weirdly, always trying to rub my hair, always asking for hugs. I knew something didn't seem right.

When I was 13, he made his move. He would grab my chest, I would wake up with him sitting next to me, watching me sleep and rubbing my hair. I also recently found out he made a hole in the bathroom and put a video camera. He was also masturbate when I was in the same room.

When I was 15, he tried to sleep with me. I woke up with him climbing on top of me. I pushed him off, and he tried to convince me to sleep with him. After him trying for 2 hours, he finally left, and never tired it again.

I am now 19. Last year I finally found the guts to call the police and pressed charges. They've went to the house I use to live in, and took pictures of the camera hole, interviewed witnesses of his weird behavior, etc.

Well, after not speaking to him for a year, (my mom ended it with him) We've started speaking. Something happened with our house and he has offered to help. I can see a difference in him. He lost everything! (The house, kids, everything) I can see he is trying to change.

He knows I'm charging him, but he is still really nice to me.

I'm thinking about dropping the charges. I don't think people should get away with that, but I know he is sorry and trying to change himself.

What should I do? Continue Charging or Drop them all together?

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

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He isn't changing hes just being ''nice'' to get off with it.

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He isn't changing hes just being ''nice'' to get off with it.

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Yeah..
I'm sorry but you would actually be an idiot to think that he's changing - you need to keep pressing charges and not let him off before he does it to someone else >:(
He's just a dirty old pervert tbh.

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If you got love for me, i got love for you.
If you don't f**k with me, i don't f**k with you.

Do what you want, but either which way you are just wasting your time and energy on someone you shouldn't be thinking about.

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Stop exploding, you cowards!

He has to be man enough to accept responsibility for what he did.He is manipulating you again but more subtly now.

IF HE HAS CHANGED:
If he has changed, he has been through extensive and long term therapy/counseling.(which seldom works but does sometimes) Has that happened? He has accepted responsibility and given you and your Mom a heartfelt and sincere apology...has that happened? If he's changed he would not even come near you after the apology. Otherwise, he's manipulating you again...he may even think he's changed and is "helping" you and your Mom...Pedophiles are excellent at rationalizing their actions, even turning the obviously wrong actions into something pure and beautiful in their own warped minds.

Please do not let him off with a 'thank you' for acting so nice now.


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A Parent, old geezer, and occasionally right. Good judgment comes from bad
experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.