My Top Ten turn-ons for boys (and girls too--I'm pansexual): 1. Intelligent: I don't want some dumbass who only cares about sports, video games and sex (or boys/girls, nails, shopping and drama), I would like someone who is concerned about world issues, and politics and has a mind.
2. Has their own opinions: Yeah, I like a guy/girl who'll agree with me, but I don't want him/her to be a doormat who agrees with everything I say for fear of offending me. Yeah, I would want him/her to share a lot of my opinions, but I also want him/her to have his/her own too. Don't get me wrong, I don't want an insensitive asshole who'll disregard my opinions and tell me I'm stupid, But [I want] a guy/girl who will respectfully state his/her opinions, but listen to mine and respect them, as well, s/he doesn't have to agree with me all the time, but I would at least want him/her to see the reasoning behind my beliefs and keep an open mind.
3. Someone who has goals: I don't want some deadbeat idiot who will go nowhere in life and eventually become a drunk bum who leeches money out of people (or a girl who will go nowhere in life and end up as a hooker/stripper/bag lady). I would want him/her to have ambitions, dreams, goals and aspirations.
4. At least a handful of breasts and ass (in a girl) and a smaller ass (still at least a handful) and pretty nice abs (on a boy) and average weight, not too skinny and not too big...just right, lol (remember, these are only PREFERENCES, not necessities): In a girl, I'd want a little something to grab on to, while in a boy, I'd want to be able to slide my hands up and down his nice torso and clutch his ass against me while he's fucking me (wow, that was pretty dirty, for me, considering I'm usually a little more discreet and I'm a virgin, lmao).
5. Dorky: I love a person who can let loose and have fun and be quirky, weird, and just themselves....I want them to be true to themselves.
6. Taller than me (for boys) or shorter than me (for girls): when I'm with a boy, I want to rest my head against his shoulder and have him wrap his arms around me tightly....I like to feel...protected when I'm with a boy....but on the opposite hand, when I'm with a girl, I like her smaller than me, so that I can wrap my arms around her and protect her, lol, it's weird....
7. Straightforward: I don't want to play games. Period. Either you want me, or you don't. If you do, great. If you don't, then fuck you, 'cause you're not worth my time, then.
8. Educated/open-minded: I don't want some ignorant, close-minded jerk/bitch, I want someone who actually knows what the fuck they're talking about.
9. Decent Music Tastes: Like the OP said "If all you like is rap, but don't understand where it came from, or if all you like is super pop crap, then that's not cool." Exactly....I DO have a slight preference for people who like rock and metal, but like I said, it's just a preference, not a necessity.
10. Nice/sweet/devoted/honest: I like a person who likes me for ME and won't try to change me, who is sweet to me and calls me pretty and actually means it...I want someone with kindness, a good heart, empathy and sympathy. And I also prefer the "Wounded Healer" types, who have been through shit, like I have so that they can understand me better.
On the flip side I don't like:
1. People who don't shower or use deodorant. It's gross. Need I say more?
2. When they're overly hairy and don't manage it: Again, it repulses me, a little hair is fine, but I don't want to choke on a hairball when I suck someone's dick or go down on them (wow, I'm REALLY dirty today). Besides, I wouldn't want people to think I'm dating a Yeti, lol.
3. Liars: I hate people who lie and pretend they are someone else, 'cause then I won't know who they really are and could therefore never TRULY love them.
4. Shallowness: I despise it....because when all people care about, is looks, they tend to be really mean, and close-minded.
5. Vain/self-centered/egocentric/narcissistic/conceited: Because people like that tend to be very selfish and only care about number one and no on else. I HATE it!
6. Prudishness or overly seriousness and naivety: I like people who make innuendos and are not afraid of sex....Because then the atmosphere is just more relaxed, casual, and fun. I like it when people are laid back and are even a tad bit dirty minded, lol.
7. Sheltered: The above, combined with not knowing anything about real life or true pain....I HATE it when people are so naive as to assume that life is a bowl of cherries that'll never run out.
8. No interests/boring people: If all you talk about is hanging out, watching TV, or playing video games ALL the fucking time without ever being with your friends, then I'll most likely automatically assume that you're a loser and you need to get a life, so that you can share it with me.
9. Unreliable: Like the OP said: "Its not cool if you want to cancel plans all the time, or it's impossible to get time with you anyway." because if I don't see you much, then what's the point of dating at all?
10. Jerks/bitches/teases/players: Need I say more? I could go on a full-fledged rant, but right now, I really don't have the energy to do so.
Again, these are just my PREFERENCES and are not necessities, because there ARE exceptions!
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Minnick and pan are my two hot LW wifeys!