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Relationship issues
Replies: 4 — Last Post July 1 9:03pm by junebabyaf
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Technician 		Reply
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years minus one break up for 5 months. We broke up because our familes are not happy with our relationship. They don't want us together for no other reason than race. We are different races from each other. It seems both of our moms don't care to get to know us. It's probably been a year or more since I've seen his mom and I'm sure that's not by accident. My mom keeps making cruel comments to me. She doesn't care to hear anythign about him. I try to tell her the nice things he has done etc and she doesn't want to hear it. She doesn't want to see him etiher. She met him once and I told her she should meet him/speak to him again and all she had to say was "I already met him". She stated that it would 'break her heart" if we got married. I think she is being way overly dramatic. I know that my dad would not come to a wedding. I never intended to cause such a family mess. I am open to relationships with all races, that's just how I am. I'm not trying to date him to upset my family or nething like that. I know that this relationship is one that i have to work for.  But it seems like soooo much is against us!!! I feel like we are doomed. What is your opinion? What do you think we should do? I just want some other perspectives. I don't agree with what our parents are saying, but would we be happy with our families not getting along our whole lives if we got married? I have no idea how to handle this. i don't even know how to talk to my mom about it. I tell her and she keeps dropping cruel comments to me. It hurts. I don't want to have drama anymore. I want to be with him and no family drama. Also, it puts sooo much pressure on our relationship. When we have problems its extra hard because we have this extra burden. Especially people on both our ends giving us bad/exaggerated advice encouraging us to break up over stupid things. It's hard enough to know if you are meant to marry someone or not! I am not sure yet which is normal, but I feel like I have ot make a decision before I have to deal with even more criticism from family!
8:53 pm on July 1, 2008 | Joined Feb. 2006 | 24 Days Active
Join to learn more about junebabyaf Illinois, United States | Straight Female | 33 Posts | 285 Points
kap101


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u should tell ur parents that it is not the color of ur skin the matters its the way they look on the inside!
8:55 pm on July 1, 2008 | Joined Feb. 2008 | 26 Days Active
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( junebabyaf )


Technician 		Reply
I wish it were that simple. Ive tried. Thanks tho :)
8:56 pm on July 1, 2008 | Joined Feb. 2006 | 24 Days Active
Join to learn more about junebabyaf Illinois, United States | Straight Female | 33 Posts | 285 Points
oridniv


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start living for urself and not ur family esp if they're not supportive be strong for each other....where does ur bf stand in all this?

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8:57 pm on July 1, 2008 | Joined July 2005 | 282 Days Active
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He is like whatever to what his family says. Although he is very close to his family. He was the one who broke up with me because of the family issue a while ago. It was a combo of his mom saying things/convincing him of things, and other people close to him. He did change his mind about it all and he says he gona do his own thing regardless of what his mom says etc. I would like to think like that too, but my family is the type that really harps on things, his family is a bit more of the relaxed type. Mine is kinda drama oriented to begin with so I think it makes it a bit more difficult in that sense.
9:03 pm on July 1, 2008 | Joined Feb. 2006 | 24 Days Active
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