In those four to five months things have got better and better, we've exchanged photos, and e-mails, and moved onto webcam and microphone.

The big problem with this is that she has a boyfriend, and just last night she told me that a month back he actually proposed to her.  She said she turned him down because whatever feelings she has for me are strong enough to make her have doubts about her current relationship.  I asked her if she loves me (a simple yes/no answer, any doubts I told her to say no) and she said "then it's a no".  And then she said she's in love with me but she doesn't love me?  What does that mean?

I've asked her if she'll meet me when she goes to study in Lyon and she said she'd really really love to meet me.

I honestly don't know what to do, I don't want to loose her, last night it almost got to the point that I said I can't do this anymore and I almost said goodbye, she said she didn't want to loose me either.  What should I do?  

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well, if she doesnt want to meet you, she doesnt want to.  
the only thing you could really do then, would be to try and get over her.
even though it may be hard, im sure you'll find someone in the future.

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She said she does want to meet me.

Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.
I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.
So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.

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Who'd ever think you'd go and end up...
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Loose you haha?

Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.
I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.
So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.

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I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions.

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Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008

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Loose you haha?  

 Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.  
 I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.  
 So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.

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I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions.

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Quote: from Anonymous at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008

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Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008

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Loose you haha?  

  Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.  
  I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.  
  So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.

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 I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions.

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Then don't make it hard for either of you.
If you had met her in person and she had a bf, you would NEVER have hit on her/fallen in love with her ect.  
Just because you met her online doesn't make it right for you to break up her relationship.
I personally, would be looking elsewhere for love, and trying to get over this girl.

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so? i dont c the problem i mean if she isnt as happy with the other guy as you him y stretch things out? let the other dude go and have a new start. and if u say u really love fight for it if u think its worth it

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Quote: from jsgirl at 12:37 am on July 28, 2008

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Quote: from Anonymous at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008

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Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008

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Loose you haha?    

   Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.    
   I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.    
   So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.

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  I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions.

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 Then don't make it hard for either of you.  
 If you had met her in person and she had a bf, you would NEVER have hit on her/fallen in love with her ect.  
 Just because you met her online doesn't make it right for you to break up her relationship.  
 I personally, would be looking elsewhere for love, and trying to get over this girl.

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so? i dont c the problem i mean if she isnt as happy with the other guy as you him y stretch things out? let the other dude go and have a new start. and if u say u really love fight for it if u think its worth it

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That's all easier said than done, I'm not going to let this go until we've at least met each other I feel as though I'll feel exactly the same in person as I do online.  Distance is a big problem here, hopefully I can work round that.

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dam bro.. u just gotta give that up. i know its hard, but look at what ur workin wit honestly.

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If you both really want to meet each other, then I say go for it.

The girl sounds like she loves both of you - which isn't a good sign. She will eventually have to choose between the two of you, and since her current boyfriend is close to her, she most likely will pick him, and leave you heartbroken.

I advise that you ask to be just friends and nothing more than that. It is a very intense situation, but you really can't do anything about it. If you both really want to meet each other that bad, then by all means do. Internet relationships usually don't work, and I feel that you would have a better chance with a girl that is near where you live.

If in fact she loves you more than her boyfriend, then you really should take a chance. It is one of those now or never things. Chances are that it won't work and you will have to end it all, but if you feel confident about this, then I say meet her and go for it.

In conclusion, if she really means that much to you, then you really should meet her. She must really be deep in a relationship with the other guy too. You really need to pick whether to end it or give it a shot. I hope you found this reply helpful, and you can PM me if you would like.

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I'm not that naive
I'm just out to find
The better part of me