That's my situation now. FUBAR. No idea what to do. I met this girl (we'll call her Jill) at college orientation and we hit it off quite nicely and chatted pretty much the entire time and she seemed really cool. She never mentioned having a bf until the second day and when she did, I thoughht, "Fuck...... wow...."
We continued chatting online because we live 50 miles apart and we met up on the 4th of July in Boston. We flirted a bit and several days later we both confided that we had feelings for each other. I said I must feel differently since I'm unattached and she has a bf of 2 years (who she likes to talk about). She denies that I feel differently, but I don't exactly believe her.
So this week on Tuesday I drove up to see her and we went to the beach and flirted a lot. By this time it had become apparent that her bf is a complete and total douche bag. He only cares about himself, basically. We got ice cream and when I was driving her home, I asked if she wanted to "drive" because she had never driven stick before so she put her hand on the shift and I put my hand over hers to guide her to the correct gears. She liked that.
So yesterday she asks me a question. She asks if I think she's leading me on and before I can answer, she tells me not to answer because she changed her mind and doesn't want to know. I was going to tell her that part of me thinks we're going to be together and part of me thinks she won't leave her bf.
It's really fucked up though because if she DOES leave her bf for me, then how can I ever trust anything she says and not worry about the same thing happening to me? And if she doesn't leave him then our friendship will just have massive amounts of sexual tension and just fall apart.
So I'm kinda stuck here. Dunno what to do or think. Any thoughts?
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Talk to her about it! 
