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Is there a reason for this?
Replies: 2Last Post July 16 1:31am by cha chi
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so my boyfriend and i broke up several months ago and well i want to say that im over it but lately i keep having these dreams about him. in all honesty i could never forgive him for how he mistreated me but my dreams at night are telling me something else. in my dreams hes a changed person but im the only one that refuses to believe hes different. we always have some hugging/ crying session as if we're getting back together and everything will be fine but at the same time i resent him for so many things even though we agree to be together again. my dream last night was especially interesting because a girl from his past whom he cared for but never returned his affection appeared in my dream. she kept telling me that when she heard about me and my ex getting together she was incredibly jealous and tried to contact him more to regain his attention. and let me just tell u that she really did try that stuff when i was with my ex but he always blew her off. but in the dream the girl tells me that after my ex and i broke up he tried to reach her again but she could see it in his eyes that he was just trying to fill a void and that he still dwells on me. these dreams are always VERY vivid and i have a hard time figuring out if any of it did or didnt happen when i wake  up in the morning.

also last week i ran into my ex's best friend.. he made some comment about my ex being suicidal and he implied that his suicidal thoughts are a result of our break up.... and when he said suicidal he meant it as hes still beating himself up over the whole thing.... i have a hard time believing thats true...

ahhh what do my dreams mean

also i feel like my ex has already moved on and is dating someone new... i have ZERO evidence for this... im just going off of a feeling... but this feeling is part of the reason i really couldnt believe that he even thinks about me


11:08 pm on July 13, 2008 | Joined Sep. 2004 | 92 Days Active
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There are generally 2 ways the dreams could have been triggered.

The most common one is basically the response of your subconcious, which is actually quite normal in most people. The reason why the dreams are accustomed towards amking up and getting back with your ex is simply because you are somehow still resentful over the issue, and like you said, you could never forgive him, and let go of the issue. The recurrences are the reaction of your subconcious that you are still trying to hold on to the past.

OR

On another take, IF you are very senstive to your environment, and or you are aware of these sixth sense thingys, which is extremely rare, and probably cannot even be scientificalyl proven (but still I've had some reliable accounts, and I've experienced some myself) can be triggered by the fact that he may be in trouble. However, such a case is very rare.

It would be best for you to check out the facts yourself. Nevertheless, you prolly should deal with your past first and see if the dreams persists. My guess is that its the first. The more vivid the dream, the harder the grip you're having on it.

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Quote: from greenfrog04 at 11:08 pm on July 13, 2008

but my dreams at night are telling me something else. in my dreams hes a changed person but im the only one that refuses to believe hes different.  

Sometimes what our dreams tell us is what our most inner self wants to have happen. You WANT him to change, you WANT him to be better so your brain thinks up of things to make things better.

Believe me i know this also cause it happened when i tried getting over an x. And just when i thought that we could be friends, we would talk and i would dream about him and he would be changed and a better person etc, but its just what we want, not what will and can happen.

3 years later he is still the same person and has never changed one bit. He has continued to hurt me even after almost 3 years after we dated and now we are friends and friends only, for good cause thats the way i keep it. but becuase i have accepted that i dotn dream about it cause i dont want him or want him to be better to me. I wish he coudl be a better person period, but him doing that does not concern me, its all how he goes about living his life.

I hope you are ok and you figure things out. Everything happens for a reason and you will get over it, just might take more time than you thought it would. Have fun and live life and do things you want to do. Keep yourself busy, it will keep your mind off things you dont particularily want to be thinking about :)

Good Luck.

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