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Why are we afraid of being labelled?
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Replies: 12Last Post July 15 11:06pm by cha chi
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( cha chi )


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What is your opinion on being labelled "in a relationship" or "seeing someone" or "dating"

I am seeing someone and have been told that he doesnt like to be labelled.

MY opinion is that if you are more than willing to show everyone publicly, with friends, family and co-workers etc that you like the person but you dont want to be labelled as "in a relationship" or the bf/gf what do you do?

I think its immature, period. This guy is about to turn 26 and you would think that a grown man would have the balls to not have a problem with being in a relationship. If you want to show that you like the person then you shouldnt have a problem saying your in a relationship and that you are dating that person.

Otherwise, what is the point? Why would you bother spending time with them, why cant you be labelled? What is the problem with a label?

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EyelashWishes


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tbh he doesnt want to be labelled so he has the freedom to go off and be with other people when hes seeing you

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Mazy


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maybe it's like a fear of commitment

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bravosquadsas


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a lot of guys can be afraid of commitment, and see just simply allowing themselves to be labelled as "seeing someone" as being commited. it's really immature.

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RockerTori106


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It could be because he's cheating on you. This guy my friend was seeing wanted them to be dating "exclusively" which in his terms meant "Let's date exclusively without anyone knowing so I can date two other girls with the same name as you from other schools and get away with it".

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It makes me feel constricted and anxious to be labeled.

He may be scared of making a commitment. Maybe he isn't ready to be that serious with anyone. Talk to him about it.

If he isn't ready, waiting is your choice.

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Natsy


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in his mind, he's 17 and "in his prime" idiot...

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well, personally =] id just tell him where ta go :o!
i love telling people im with someone and being happy lyk to walk round in public holding hands etc hes gay if u ask me =]

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He doesnt want it to be exclusive. Hes probably cheating

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Ok... to add to this... we wont be seeing anybody else but the two of us and i have that guarantee from hsi best friend.

Now what?

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My last guy and I weren't dating. We were more than friends, but less than fuck buddies. We weren't fucking, we weren't having 'just sex', and we weren't making love. What we were was undefinable, at best. What we were only matterd to us. And that's the thing. What matters is not what outsiders label us (we were always thought to be 'dating', when, most of the time, we were simply 'talking'), but what we label ourselves.

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He's probably saying that to make sure that your relationship doesn't get at all overbearing or overwhelming. I won't let people call me their best friend, and I won't call somebody my best friend because I don't want it to seem like all bets are off and anything goes - you know? I'm sorry, that wasn't real helpful. My point is just that he's probably kind of freaked out, and that could mean that he really is interested but he doesn't know how to deal with it.

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Thanks.

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