Well, my best friend has a new bf.. and they've been dating a month, and she already says she loves him..
but the problem is, she lies quite a lot. She makes plans with her friends, and lies to get out of it to go out with him.
All of her friends feel she is blowing us off. Im not the only one who feels this way..
but the only person who has tried to talk to her and get through to her, only got into an argument so they are somewhat mad at each other. So idk what to say to her about it either.
1:08 pm on July 16, 2008
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everybody lies, big or small, the world is FULL of lies and liers.
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It's hard, and of course she's going to be defensive. She probably doesn't realize that she's blowing you off, or otherwise thinks that her love for her boyfriend is something you should understand and accept.
The only thing you can do is tell her that you wish you could spend more time with her like before. Just say that you feel like you're losing a best friend, and that makes you sad. Just be careful how you word it, and she may get angry, but maybe she'll come to realizing the truth.
you cant love someone after one month.. i think most people these days are in love with the idea of being in love... they dont ACTUALLY love the person.. they just love saying it.
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Yeah ik that. Love is an overused word.
I asked her how she knew.. and she's like, well ik what it's like to not be in love.. and this is a lot different.
I mean, she's 16 years old He is 19. She thinks they wont ever break up. Sure, i dont want her to get her heart broken.. but the idea they will get married and she hasnt even finished high school yet..
yeah idk what to say.
1:15 pm on July 16, 2008
ohemgeeitsme424
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based on their age.. and the fact that she's moving very fast... i give them AT MOST another month... there's a difference between CARING about someone and LOVING them.
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If she doesn't mean it when she says that she loves him, of course its wrong. Its also wrong of her to say that she loves him when they've only been dating for a month and I doubt she even knows what love is. Ah, she's lying to go out with her boyfriend so she blows you guys off? Try to confront her about it. Say that you don't like it when she blows you off when you guys have already made plans. Thats disrespectful and she's not thinking about other people. Its okay to cancel plans once or twice but not all the time. Tell her this.
Good Luck.
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